Years ago, I used to wear a suit every day to work. Jacket. Shoulder pads. Hose. Heels. You name it.
I don’t wear dresses for work much anymore. This is for several reasons; the dress code in my office is “business casual.” I’m pretty comfortable working in pants, not to mention.. warm. And… I’m heavier than I was in those “suit-wearing days.” Definitely packing more “junk” in the “trunk” than I did back in the day.
Still .. sometimes it just feels good to feel feminine and dresses do that for me. So do heels. When I feel good in something, the number on the tag fades away. When I walk with confidence, with my shoulders back and a wide smile across my face, I feel I can do anything. The reaction, however, can be a little unsettling and here’s why: sometimes in the course of the business day, I cross paths with people I’ve never met. They don’t know me. They don’t know that I used to be thin. They don’t know that I once wore single-digit sizes.
Here’s what I realized recently: They don’t care.
It’s not the dress or the heels.
It’s me.
They’re reacting to me. A comfortable, confident woman who feels good enough in her own skin to allow herself to shine on this day, and they’re not looking for a number on the tag.
They’re seeing me. My light. My presence. Me.
I absolutely love the feeling that heels give me. I can never get enough of heels, even though they sometimes come me a great deal of pain, I always go back!
I am very happy for you, more women need to realize what you have. I truly believe that confidence is the key. If you have that, you can accomplish anything.
agreed; confidence makes all the difference! Thank you for commenting
It’s time for me to go out and buy a new pair of heels! However, ballet flats make me feel like a school girl. The free spirited, laugh in the face of danger, spin around with my eyes close, I can do anything you can do better attitude.
by all means, spin around – arms open – hair flying – go for it!
Keep on shining MJ! You should be very proud of your blog. Awesome.
Thank you Ter; it’s a work in progress … as we all are !
Love this post! Let’s celebrate the woman who realizes she is not a statistic! Let’s teach our young’uns that too before it’s too late and they spend the next 20 years of their lives figuring out beautiful comes in all shapes n sizes!
Thank you Girls2Women .. It’s taken me a while but I did finally figure it out. For me it’s a pencil skirt & kitten heels >< Meow!
Hey girlio – I have to tell you…. I got called “luscious” the other day, and you know what, it made me feel like a BC peach in mid August and he was about to take a bite. Oooooooey!! Keep on bloggin – I’m lovin it!
Your “well rounded” cousin.
ps. Contrary to what we were all taught…. no one has ever stopped me on the street to ask what size my dress is or my heels for that matter… clickity click!
Well glad to hear someone had the intelligence to recognize you for what you are: a luscious peach! Thanks for posting!
I love that feeling too; the feeling that I’m on top of the world and that I can do anything.
Yes!!!! That’s exactly what I was trying to convey
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