Most of the time I don’t remember my dreams. I wish I did but I don’t. The Hubbs, on the other hand, seems to dream vividly and often. Often those dreams come up in conversations as we try to understand just what they mean.
Sometime ago I picked up a copy of “The Dream Book,” by Betty Bethards. I admit that I was a little skeptical becuase it was just a little bit “boogly-boogly,” nearly bordering on the supernatural. But the more I’ve used the glossaries contained therein, the more I’ve come to understand what our dreams are trying to say to us. (find the book at
We spend 1/3 of our lives asleep. Do you really think that your job anxieties, family conflicts, and daily struggles just slip away when you’re sleeping? To the contrary … the images that come to us .. funny, bizarre, scary and surreal .. all have meaning and can be useful tools to better understanding.
Case in point: The Hubbs is dreadfully afraid of heights. Just talking about getting up on a ladder will cause him to break a sweat. I can actually watch the panic as it transforms him. Recently he dreamt of being in a tall building, near the window (something he’d never do) and the window’s glass was shattered. Turning away from the window he saw a staircase but the staircase was rickety and swaying. The image was so disturbing to him that he repeatedly woke himself up. The dream came back. We sat down with the book and put the images together:
- Large building: A large building represents a tremendous energy source; it suggests you have great opportunities, tremendous potential and a large destiny to fulfill.
- Glass, shattered: Shattered glass represents the breaking of illusions.
- Stairs: Stairs represent direction in life; note direction .. if going up, right direction, if going down, wrong. Make up your mind and get on with it.
When he pondered the symbols, he realized that a recent decision point had left him feeling unsettled and uncharacteristically anxious. He considered the fact that the decision was not in his best interests and that if he instead steered away from it he’d realize a better fit for his comfort level. That’s exactly what he did, too. The change in him was nearly immediate. I noticed not only was he more rested but that he just simply felt more at ease because he finally understood what was picking at him.
Dreams give us more than we might imagine. They offer us insight into our deepest fears, our highest hopes and our secret desires.
What are your dreams trying to tell you?