It’s “date night!”
The hubbs & I schedule regular “date nights” and have since we met 20 years ago. You see, we became an instant family when we married (more here) so we’ve never have had time that was just “ours.” We’ve always been parents and that’s OK - that’s the life we chose and neither of us would change it. Our way to navigate some time together has been to schedule it, as a way to reconnect and reaffirm what we already know. As mentioned before, many times we didn’t have the money for a sitter or to go out; we still made time for each other. More here.
I’m glad we have prioritized this because:
- Date nights mean “I hear you.”
- Date nights mean “I love you.”
- Date nights mean “I’m here for you.”
- Date nights mean wearing something other than “Mom & Dad” clothes, a whiff of cologne, cleavage, a buttoned-down shirt, a swirly skirt and lipstick.
- Date nights mean “You are still it for me.”
- Date nights mean singing our songs, telling our work stories, and being in the moment.
- Date nights mean comfort, warmth, passion and love.
- Date nights mean “In spite of everything around us – jobs – kids – family – I still choose time with you over everything – and everyone – else.”
I love that he schedules tee times early enough so that he can come home, shower, change and spend the night with me. What girl wouldn’t love that in her man?
He loves that I use my time to do what interests me and, when he returns, he’s greeted by a warm and willing companion who looks nice, feeds him and wants to spend her night with him. What guy wouldn’t love that in his girl?
At the January “State of the Union” Presidential address, a rather large fuss was made about how “both sides of the aisle” abandoned their polar positions and sat together, effectively inter-mixing the powers that be.
It’s startling that this was news. Grown-ups acting civilly towards each other. Really?
I can’t speak for Congress but, for us, date nights have always been the buoy we swim to against the undertow of daily living.
How about you? How do you maintain the state of YOUR union?