Forget what hurt you in the past. But never forget what it taught you. -Anonymous
When I read this quote, I immediately knew what I wanted to write about.
Like my post they’re in our way for a reason, it’s true that those who hurt us often have the most to teach us.
When someone dismisses what I can contribute, I learn to be more discerning with whom I share my talents. Think of opening a bottle of wine .. it’s best to just let it breathe. Not everyone deserves some of what I’ve got.
When someone reaches for me only to tell me what I can do for them, I learn they do this because I’ve probably allowed it before now.
When someone speaks with little regard to my feelings, I learn that my shock, awe and silence could have been misinterpreted as permission.
A friend asked me recently why I don’t actively promote my blog among colleagues and my answer surprised both of us, “Because when people I’ve never met tell me that my words resonated with them, I know I’ve crossed the divide that separates us … and we’ve connected because of it.”
Connections. That’s all I need. And that’s the lesson in the snapshots.
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“When someone speaks with little regard to my feelings, I learn that my shock, awe and silence could have been misinterpreted as permission.”
NOW – that one I’m gonna remember!!
Great post!
Thank you, Dianna. We’ve all had those moments (I think, anyways) when we realize later what we should have said in response .. but didn’t. MJ
Unfortunately, the person who came to mind is an in-law, and out of respect, I usually maintain my silence. But I will REMEMBER this thought…. in my silence….
… It is so hard to do, too. Bests to you, MJ
I’m with Dianna. I have felt that before. But no they don’t have permission and the next time I am better prepared. Great observations. “You keep doing what you’re doing” to quote a blogging friend of mine. Hugs!
.. Thank you for the encouragement
MJ
I think many of us will learn from this post. As Oprah says, when you know better do better. Great post!
That is one quote that she refers to that I really do “get” — Cheers to you, Renee!
MJ
Wow, I love your blog…you always have such wise words!
thank you, JSD. I just try to keep it real and relevant!
Cheers MJ
Always inspirational, MJ. Thank you.
Thank you Lenore Diane
MJ
Not everyone deserves some of what I’ve got. Love that line.
don’t we know it? Cheers! MJ
Cool, cool, COOL!! I love this post MJ.
This line screamed my name: “When someone speaks with little regard to my feelings, I learn that my shock, awe and silence could have been misinterpreted as permission.”
And… I especially love this line too: “Not everyone deserves some of what I’ve got”!
Thank you, D. The thing is .. I’d rather not have had the experiences, and I’m sure you would’ve, too. But … if we’re going to have negative things happen, best to learn something from them, yes?
Cheers!
MJ
That quote is so true! What a great motto. I can honestly say some of the situations that hurt me the most taught me the most valuable lessons. We just have to listen and accept the answers.
I think it’s because they often leave a deeper mark … and we stop and pay attention as we go, right?
Cheers! MJ
You’re wise to turn the hurt in your life into valuable lessons. I couldn’t help but think of a particular person as I read this and now I feel empowered to deal with her without feeling beaten down.
Yay! That’s exactly why I shared this — my cousin gave this gift to me and I am passing them along to you. When she is her snarky self, just smile and think CORN
Cheers, MJ
Hmmm…this gives me an idea….
… great! Can’t wait to find out more
MJ
I love reading what you have to say. You bless me.
Aww, thank you, Lissa. I appreciate you!
MJ
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