Find a picture of yourself as a little kid and say to that little person what you say to yourself when you look in the mirror. Would you tell her that her thighs are too big? That she needs to lose weight? That her hair is wretched? That he’s not good enough? Would you tell him that he’ll never be enough, have enough, make enough? No you wouldn’t.
If you wouldn’t say those things to a small child, why do you say them to yourself?
A balanced diet. Exercise. Enough sleep. Vitamins. Health products. You name it. I think it has to start at the core. Reinforcing my self-worth comes from thinking about how I would talk to that grade school girl. I would treat her with kindness; I’d encourage and support her. I’d tell her she could do anything, be anything, go anywhere and that she is most certainly.. good enough.
What we do to ourselves, we end up expecting and accepting from others.
What’s that quote?
Be the change you wish to see in the world. -Ghandi.
Hi MJ,
Nice post….
“What we do to ourselves, we end up expecting and accepting from others.”
Excellent..
Asmita
Thank you; we all need to be a little kinder & gentler on ourselves! Thanks for visiting; MJ.
M…perfectly stated. Thank you!
Thank you, every once in a while I have these “moments of clarity” and the words pour out. Sometimes they even make sense! This was one of them. Cheers! MJ.
Wow. This really tugged at my heartstrings. Thanks for the beautiful post, MJ.
I’m glad, Jaclyn Rae. Thanks for stopping in .. and Happy Friday! – MJ
Great point! I look at that adorable 1st grade face of yours, and there is no way I could bend down to eye level and tell her (and my own young self), all the things we tend to let roll around in that head of ours. I will be thinking of that going forward – thanks!
Thank you sweet CM’s wife; I couldn’t do it, either and so I’ve vowed to stop saying it to my adult self, too. Cheers for the day, MJ.
Good advice but sometimes self criticism goes a long way. There is nothing worse than arrogance and ignorance of shortcomings. I really like your blog by the way! 🙂
Thank you, Nicole. I agree with you, to an extent. Self-examination: yes, absolutely. Self-criticism? Not as much. What we can recognize we can either 1) change or 2) accept. Come back soon! MJ.
How funny that we both posted pictures of us as younger girls/women! You make a very good point. I would not say ANY of the things I say to ‘now’ self to my ‘younger’ self! No way. This is a great reminder and will help keep me in check.
I knew you’d get it; it took that example for me to “see” it, too. Thank you for visiting and p.s. I’ve added you to my blogroll; hope that’s all right!
Cheers, MJ
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Love this, MJ!
P.S. This is definitely a social media share!