Birthday cakes & peanut butter

“Romance novels are birthday cake and life is often peanut butter and jelly. I think everyone should have lots of delicious romance novels lying around for those times when the peanut butter of life gets stuck to the roof of your mouth.”  ― Janet Evanovich

That quote speaks to me, not because I’m an avid reader of Romance novels, but because life really is peanut butter and jelly.

Think about it: we grow up, we find someone we’re compatible with, there’s romance and wooing and all that, but when we find our way into a life together, a good part of our life is peanut butter & jelly.  Working at a job. Raising a family. Coaching a team.  Instilling Values. Paying bills. Saving for Vacation. Handling what comes our way: aging parents, kids with challenges, relatives, friendships, repairs, job stresses; you name it.

Valentine’s Day is coming and here we are bombarded by TV Ads telling us that the only way to show love is to buy jewelry, flowers, footie pajamas (huh?) and teddy bears.  Really?

You wanna know something heartfelt and romantic Hubbs did for me?

The night before our oldest boy’s wedding, he helped me clean the house, again.  Then he spent a couple of hours practicing the “Best Man’s” Toast with our youngest.  He stocked the garage fridge and re-arranged the patio the way I wanted it (because, of course, everyone was getting ready at our house the next day).  But that’s not it – when I least expected it, he grabbed my hand, twirled me twice and slow-danced with me, out in the garage, in the wee hours of that last night.  And when he held me close, this Mama’s heart overflowed with love for him and angst for our boy; getting married that next day, such a big step!  And hubbs did exactly what I needed him to: He wiped my tears as his eyes spilled over with his own.

Birthday cake is good but I’ll take the peanut butter, please.

Tell me something romantic and heartfelt someone has done for you!

me & the hubbs dancing at our boy's wedding

And … in case you wondered, here’s what we danced to:

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30 thoughts on “Birthday cakes & peanut butter

  1. Aw, I’m crying! What a sweet, thoughtful man you have there! My Motor Man is always doing those sweet, thoughtful things for me. And the song you linked to: it always reminds me of all the little love notes MM leaves for me in unexpected places. (I leave a few for him, too!)
    I love your post today – it’s so very true. Give me PB & J anytime!
    Great picture too!

    • Aw, I didn’t mean to make you cry, Dianna! And the thing is, I know this about your MM; it’s those little things they do that let us know – in their own way – that we’re loved. It doesn’t have anything to do with Hallmark -but it has everything to do with listening and being there. ((Love the love notes 🙂 )).

      Bring on the PB & J !

      And that’s a favorite picture of mine because we had so much joy and hope that day; it was a lot of work but so much fun, too. And .. our boy and his bride are in the shot, too !

      Thank you for your sweet comments,

  2. He loves me more now than he ever did…and I know it. Family life is a business…the business of all you mentioned and we did it together. I couldn’t have done what I have done without him. Make up and hair for the girls’ performances, yep, he did it. Sick and needed to be picked up from school? He dropped what he was doing and did it. Forgotten homework? He left the office and delivered. What more can I say? Yes, PB& and all that messy jelly! ♥♥♥ Can’t find a tear drop thing-a-ma-jig.

    • I love that, “He loves me more now than he ever did .. and I know it.”

      You said it all, Georgette!

      And you’re right — showing up, getting it done, that’s where the love is, isn’t it?


  3. Ding dangity, PMS is making me a blubbering sap. (smile) This made me teary eyed, too. In a good way – a deliciously pb&j kind of way. Good stuff.

    • “Ding dangity!” I can always count on you, LD, to teach me a new saying. Love it!

      And thank you for ‘getting it’ – in a blubbery pb&J kinda way.

      Hugs, MJ

  4. Your hubby is SO sweet! You’re a lucky girl, MJ!

    • You know, he is — but not in the sappy Hallmark way. He’s a steady, hard-working guy who knows me well and while he doesn’t “do” the traditional roses & chocolates thing (and that’s ok with me), he shows up and that works for me!
      Thanks for your comments 🙂 MJ

  5. Peanut butter just doesn’t cut it without the jelly. They’re a team (as it is with a good marriage). I suspect your husband is paying back a little of what he gets – a little sweetness begets more of the same. Thanks for posting!

    • That is true; Make mine Raspberry!! And you are correct- he gets as good as he gives ;). Thank you for reading between the lines .. MJ

  6. This is a beautiful story you’ve shared.
    This boyfriend-I-married told me he was going to sweep me off my feet, to which I replied he was going to need a pretty stiff broom. Leaving work on a rainy day, he drove up on the sidewalk to pick me up. I’m pretty sure he still would. Pass the PB&J, please. 🙂

  7. MJ, I am with you…quality time spent with my hubs is all that I need or want. I love your analogy of life and pb&j. BTW, great picture of you and your hubs!

    • Thank you, Jeanne. That’s one of my favorite pics from that happy day :). Here’s to the weekend — and perhaps more times together!! MJ

  8. I love this story, as in totally LOVE it. But damn if I can think of something romantic off the top of my head. However, you have reminded me that it might be a good idea to share the story of how Sara and I met as part of a Valentine’s Day post. It’s a good one!

    • Thank you, Kathy. I’m glad you loved it. Love’s in the day-to-day, I think. When he fills my vehicle up with gas on a cold, wintry day; when he makes a trip back to the store for something I’ve forgotten — to me, those gestures speak volumes. I would like to hear the story of how you met; I hope you write it 🙂 MJ

  9. What a sweet memory! I agree that most of life is about PB & J, but now and then, you get the good stuff. I often find that these moments happen in the middle of the ordinary. Somehow that makes the special moments all the more meaningful, that they come when you’re in the thick of life. Thank you for the reminder! ~ Sheila

  10. Silent smiles 🙂

  11. Oh, that’s so sweet! I am teary-eyed because I can just imagine how you must have felt. My husband is not a romantic guy, but he does little things all the time that let me know he loves me — but I’m danged if I can think of any right now. I will have to pay special attention in the future.

    What a great photo! Thanks for the link to the song. I don’t really listen to country music, though I do like it when I hear it.

    • You’ll think of one; there’s certainly no pressure. It’s the little things – filling up my car with gas on a cold day, carrying in a heavy load for me (even though I could do it), letting me sleep in when I was sick and taking old dog out at the crack of dawn — those things — to me are worth far more than flowers once a year. Routine consideration – now that’s where it’s at (and it goes both ways).

      I love George Strait – cute, classy, and a good entertainer. Cheers! MJ

  12. P.S. Peanut butter and jelly has been my favorite since my first little kid bite. Can’t imagine life without it. 😉

  13. You just look so happy it makes me smile too!

    • We were; it was a really fun day and the culmination of a lot of planning and hard work. We danced till our feet were screaming! 🙂 MJ

  14. That is romance to the finest degree……love it!

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