If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.  ~Author Unknown

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Lately, I’ve evaluated how I “spend” my time vs. how I want to.

Isn’t it odd that we measure time in units of value?

How did you spend your day off?

Oh man, I wasted a whole hour!

But I digress.

Over the past year, I’ve examined my life and made a conscious effort to make room for what matters to me.   The energy vampires are (mostly) gone and instead, I’ve added a few battery chargers to my circle.

I’ve cleared out the clutter in my life so I can do what’s important.

I’ve stopped maintaining relationships that aren’t healthy.  Doing so has made more room for the ones that are.

I’ve gone to bed earlier, and looked better,  than the results any diet ever delivered.

I’ve faced fears, spoken up and taken on new things; these efforts have energized me more than any $100 skin care product possibly could.

I’ve learned that saying no  translates into a big, fat YES… for me.

I’ve learned how very satisfying is is to raise my own price-point.

How about you?  Do you depend on others to raise your price?  Are you in the process of change?  How do you feel about it? 

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50 thoughts on “Price-point

  1. As soon as I took in that “Are You Happy?” chart the very first thing I thought of is what a friend of mine has always said: If nothing changes, nothing changes.
    I am in the process of some kind of change, it is good and kinda scary all at once….love it!

  2. Do I depend on others to raise my price? Such a penetrating question. Great way to get at this issue from, yet another, vantage point. I am in the process of change – would be able to echo much of what you’ve written. And this question nudges me to dig even deeper. I feel some important journal entries coming on! Thank you so much for this post!

    • Adrienne – thank you for your wise comments; you always make me think! I hope you’ll share what you discover along the way .. MJ

  3. Few things are more irritating that listening to someone complain about a life they don’t seem willing to change.

    I’ve had to learn this lesson the hard way. Finally noticed no one else was going to intervene (or could, for that matter) and took my life in my own hands. Thank God I did!


    • Yes – and even worse, there are times I’ve realized that I was that person – EGAD!

      It’s very empowering to take hold of the reins and wrestle back control of our runaway cart 🙂


  4. I can honestly say that I’m happy with where I am in life. It’s very busy for me at times, but that’s just because I’m helping out some folks who really need it. And that’s a good thing. Thank goodness I have an understanding hubby, because my brain is so busy, it sometimes forgets something I’m supposed to do….

  5. I hate those vampires. This is a great reminder that saying “no” is an awesome thing! 🙂

  6. Saying ‘no’ to people is really hard, especially when you are southern and part of the culture of women in the south is pleasing others. I’m working on it though.

    • Believe me, I know … and I couldn’t have been raised any farther North! I think it’s the way many of us women were raised .. to nurture (great), to care (wonderful) and to step back … (wait a cotton-pickin minute!)


  7. richripley

    MJ…everytime that I think that I’ve “changed” I look back through my journal and see that it’s just a cycle that I go through….a good cycle…learning-growing-wising up a little….but a cycle nontheless. (and I’ve become real good at saying “no” to most “time vampires”….despite their whining. 😉

  8. Do you depend on others to raise your price? If I’m honest with myself, I have to say yes – to some degree. Are you in the process of change? I am. I think I always am to some extent, and when I look back over the years, I realize what a slow process it is, but it’s important to keep plugging away at it. How do you feel about it? Your post reminds me of that saying – something to the effect of “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting something to change.” I just keep reminding myself to keep trying different things.

    • I’m with you, Terri. I think part of growing and evolving is that we’re always changing to some extent. Some things I want to remain just as they are but I have realized I need to keep pushing it or I’ll grow stagnant.
      Thank you for your comments!

  9. Great post. Great questions. I think I’m ok where I am, for now. But things can always change!

  10. Oh how nice it is to be “retired” and make fun choices.

  11. Things are always changing for me. I love change and love to learn new things. However, I could always be better about prioritizing and cutting out the energy-drainers that’s for sure. I spend a lot of time in social media – hopefully front-end loaded due to the learning curve.

  12. Love that chart. I am in the middle of big changes and I have to say I am more than ready for it. Bring it on!

  13. Even though I am a cracked pot, God considers me a valuable vessel to carry His message to others. If I am nurturing my relationship with Him, I am always changing for HIs glory.
    Keep the Faith!

  14. alanamokma

    MJ – I am definitely “raising my own value” rather than waiting for others to raise it for me. We kind of talked on this before, but I am so happy that you are in a stage of purging! It is so freeing – especially when you replace draining relationships with energizing ones. I realized the other day that I continuously try to please others – it ends up leaving me feel drained and empty. So glad you are making these changes! Esp that you are looking better than ever before (hardly possible, by the way 🙂 ) with the extra rest you are getting.

    • I like to be helpful and agreeable but don’t think it’s necessary for me to cow-tow to the men around me (work especially).. just because they’re men. Often, my ideas are -quite honestly – better!

      Cheers to you! MJ

  15. Hi MJ I am happy where I am at in life…I do know the importance of saying yes or saying no..let your yes be yes and your no be no….sometimes really hard to do but in the long run we will be happier with our life and ourselves if we learn how to ask for what we need. It is a good thing that you are re-grouping your life…and making changes that feel good and make you feel free. Thanks for sharing this wisdom:) Sending you a big (((Hug)))

  16. You GO, MJ!! 🙂

  17. Thought-provoking post, MJ. Some time ago, I learned to say, “No.” One of the best things ever. I don’t let others decide my value, but I do often find that it is higher than I presume.

  18. Wise, wonderful words. I have been intrigued by the “Are You Happy” poster for a while. Makes you think, doesn’t it?

  19. MJ, great post…I love growing through change!

  20. Hmmm. Yes, I think I’ve been doing a lot of similar things in my life…changing how I work, some of my priorities, really thinking about how I want to fill my time. I like your price point analogy…good way to put it! ~ Sheila

    • We’re at that point in our lives when we can step back and think, “Is this really how I want to spend my time?” And if not … BANG – change it up! 🙂

  21. In the middle of change – yes. Kinda scary, kinda slow, but good. 🙂 I love the chart.

  22. Some people have tried to put a price on me, but I’ve never been for sale. I’m free to my friends, if there is good reason.

  23. have you ever listened to joyce meyer? for some reason i think you’d like her. i love your posts.

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