To a tee

From time to time, I find it cathartic to examine where I am, what I’m doing and how I’m “spending” my days.

One way I do this is to draw a “T” down a piece of paper; on one side I write down those circumstances that have brought joy and that I want to revisit again soon.  On the other, I take note of situations that have left me feeling discouraged, bruised and unfulfilled.

Then, I look over the list, grab hold of the reins and steer my wagon towards the joyful side.

Making a list and checking it twice fits me to a “tee.”

How do you separate the wheat from the chaff? 

Categories: Attitude, Determination, Faith, Joy, Life, Personal | Tags: , | 31 Comments

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  1. I love your word picture. Can totally relate! Boy, you’re going to think I’m lying when I tell you I rarely have to steer the wagon toward the “joyful” side.” any more….1987 was a water shed period in my life along these very lines…You may have already read about it…here :

    • Thank you, DM. I will read your post ~~ I am glad you rarely have to steer your wagon to the joyful side, sounds like you’re already there 🙂 MJ

  2. I just posted my blog, then read yours (cuz that’s the way I roll) anyway…there’s a couple of similiarities between our posts as to “what revitializes us” as indivuals. Then again…you list “cleaning your house” as a “joyful”….as for me…not so much. I think that this is a good list and great evaluation tool (and blog).
    ps…you forgot “eat sour cream and raisen pie” as a “joy”. 🙂

    • Oooh I can’t wait to read it, RR. I don’t really enjoy cleaning the house but I do enjoy a clean house. So … that’s what drives me to do it (and it’s not like anyone else is going step in magically make it happen!)

      yes and SC/R pie … most definitely!

  3. Neat idea – I may have to give it a try!

  4. Absolutely brilliant, what a great idea.

  5. What a great idea, MJ.

    • Thank you Patti; I hope you give it a whirl. It’s also good to do when evaluating a decision – pros & cons on either side. I use this all the time 🙂 MJ

  6. Your “pros” outnumber your “cons.” That speaks volumes for the way you’re managing your life. I’ve felt very weighed down this past week. Maybe this exercise would do me some good too. Thanks for the idea.

    • Thankfully the pros outweigh the cons right now; what I’ve learned, though, is that a few cons can drown out all those pros. Example: being around people I don’t respect takes me down and I tend to let it steal my joy. Trying to manage that better. I hope your coming week is better 🙂 MJ

  7. MJ… what a great idea… having a down week with major jet lag and missing luggage! I’m sitting at my work desk on the other side of the world and I’m going to do it now! Bless you xoxo

  8. You are such a positive person. I probably would not list working out as a joy, but if it makes the jeans fit better, then I would list that as a joy! LOL!

    • I try … I try to avoid the negative as much as possible; I didn’t work out much last week and I miss it … you’re right, it definitely makes the jeans fit better and I also sleep better after a workout, too 🙂


  9. WordsFallFromMyEyes

    I LOVE those cherries in your header.
    Some people are really list people, some not so. I keep things in my head, but I am convinced of the benefit of lists because they keep you focused – they are worth it. You sound a very positive person 🙂

    • Thank you; hand-picked from the 100 year old orchard less than a mile from my home … Ahh Michigan! I am most definitely a list person for the reasons you mentioned – keepin’ me focused. Thank you for visiting, I hope you come back again 🙂 MJ

  10. Good thing I can read cursive. (smile) I like your handwriting and your lists.

  11. This is a great exercise, MJ.
    I love your pro’s, especially ‘summer breezes’ 🙂

    • Thank you, Marion. I like it ’cause it helps me pare away the “junk” cluttering up my life.
      Tonight there’s a cool breeze from the West and I have all windows open … old dog is passed out on the carpet facing the window. A warm front is coming so I know this might be last of my *welcomed* summer breezes for a bit 🙂


  12. cooper

    This is a tough one. (I wish I had your optimism/spirit). I like your list a lot. After much thought I can come up with about 5 things on the pro side. The con side would need additional paper.

  13. Oh, you know I’m a list maker! I worked on something like this last year, but from more of a life perspective…what is essential to make me feel whole? What makes me feel fractured and fragile? I think often it’s the small things like what you list…summer breezes, a walk with a favorite pet. Love pedicures! Thanks for the inspiration, I’ll have to see what I come up with! ~ Sheila

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