Where you look

We’ve all done it. Walked into a room looking for our keys only to find them … in our hand. Or, better yet, still in the lock we’d just opened. We throw our hands up in exasperation and (hopefully) laugh it off.

Over the past few years I’ve made a concerted effort to pay attention my life and who’s in it. I’ve tried to be mindful of what I’m doing, how I’m “spending” my time and whether or not I’m enjoying the journey.

Think about driving your vehicle from point A to point B.

How much do you – the driver – really see?   

Then, imagine yourself as a passenger or, better yet, a kid in the backseat, one foot up on the seat in front of you.  Think of how much more you see just from that vantage point.  You can leave the driving to someone else; now you have the time to wonder at what’s passing by … horses in a field, what’s down that ravine, or how many cars pass with odd looking license plates.

You can do this because you’re not focused on what’s next.  You’re focused on what’s now.

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Your life follows your attention.  Wherever you look, you end up going. –Martha Beck

.. an emjayandthem photo ..

Where are you looking?

*I’m headed to the “Gateway to the West” bright and early tomorrow  … so I won’t be able to reply to comments till this weekend.  Have a great week all!

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28 thoughts on “Where you look

  1. Have a fun trip!!!

  2. It is pretty amazing when we take the time to really see our surroundings.

  3. Great photo! Are those irrigation thingies on the horizon?
    Have fun in Saint Louie!

  4. Love the photo!
    I am guilty sometimes of living in the future…I hope I’ve learned not to live in the past! But I like it best when I am really in the moment!
    Safe travels! ~ Sheila

    • Thank you; that was taken last fall on a morning walk. I used to ride my bike to that corner and then ride back singing Olivia Newton John songs into the wind :). I, too, am guilty of living in the future sometimes … MJ

  5. Love this post, EM – and the quote is perfect. Sometimes I give Motor Man a break from driving (even short distances), just so HE can have a chance to look around. It makes quite a difference! Safe travels, my friend.

    • It really makes a difference to be the passenger and not the pilot; I think of this when I fly for I always get a window seat. Then there’s no reason not to look around 🙂 MJ

  6. I can so relate to what you’ve written here. Nice job. Enjoy your time away and be safe on the road.

  7. This is an important lesson–one I need to learn. I think I tend to zoom through most moments, focused on the next thought, the next activity, the next challenge. Thanks, MJ, for this reminder.

  8. Good lesson, MJ. Enjoy your trip!

  9. cooper

    The difference between looking and seeing. If you live in a non-ranch house, how many steps are there between floors? You walk them every day…

    How many keys on your computer keyboard? And, without looking, name all the non-alphanumeric keys…

    I like to take time and focus on the moment. The Mrs. has some issue with that if we’re sitting on a crowded beach but other than that I think it’s the best….

  10. The photo is gorgeous.
    Funny you mention the driver vs. not driving. I often find myself ‘jealous’ that my passenger can look around and see the sights while I focus on the road. I always try to LOOK. And I always enjoy your life reminders.

  11. Hope you’re having or had a good time down there…I heard it’s hot and humid. Guess that’s the nature of the beast this time of year in that neck of the woods. Stay cool.
    Regarding your post…this applies to riding or driving your horses too…you always go where you’re looking!
    Nother good thought provoking post MJ!

    • I did enjoy myself. My work colleagues were interesting and professional, I had a lovely supper with an old friend and I enjoyed the people of St. Louis — very hospitable. It was definitely hot and humid but – surprisingly – no worse than the infernal heat we’ve had here in MI!.

      I thought about your horses comment and that’s so true — many times, while riding, my mind would drift to something on the horizon and I’d find the 2 of us right there later on; he simply followed my lead.

      Cheers! MJ

  12. This was a great post, MJ! You are so right about taking the time to notice the “little things” AND the big things along our pathway of life. My hubby usually does the driving, but — like Dianna — I notice that when I’m driving he has a chance to enjoy the sights along the way that he’s been missing while his eyes have been fixed on traffic!

    I hope you’re havin’ a wonderful road trip this week — seeing lots of interesting things and enjoying many new experiences. Travel safely, and I look forward to seeing what you have in store for us when you return. 🙂

    • Thank you; I really did enjoy the trip and getting a rental car. The best part? Elvis radio on the satellite system — oh yeah! That and Diet D.P. in the fountain drink dispensers made for some pretty darn good days!
      🙂 MJ

  13. This is something I struggle with daily. There is so much stuff filtering in and out of my brain, so many activities going on, so much work to do that I can’t keep my mind focused on much for any length of time. I try hard to “see” things every day beyond my daily routine, but sometimes the day is done and I’m left wondering where it went.

  14. Great post and it’s true how much we miss each day because we’re not in the moment. Hope you had a great trip!

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