On Hinges

I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.
— Lisa Kleypas

When did you first understand that you & your mate were a match?

For me, it was the way we finished each other’s sentences. It was how long he’d stay on the phone with me; knowing that this is a guy who loathes the phone.  It was realizing that he was the first person I wanted to see every morning and the last one I wanted to see at night.  It was knowing that no matter where I went, or what I did, he’d stand by my side if only I’d let him.

Hinges.  They don’t work so well if there’s only one.

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And on that note, it’s Friday and it’s Date Night and here we are, 21 years later .. get ready, set, go!

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18 thoughts on “On Hinges

  1. sounds like the two of you “hinge” together perfectly!

    • That occurred to me the other day; our relationship is stable and as good as ever.. and I think it’s because we let each other be who we really are 🙂

  2. Well oiled hinges 🙂

  3. Congratulations — and what a perfect quote.

    My husband and I are continuing Thursday’s 26th anniversary tonight with dinner and a play.

    When did I know? I wasn’t the first. I had a huge german shepherd who hated men (it was great fun dating with him around). He adored John from the moment they met. So really, I had no choice.

    • Dogs know, don’t they? I love that story, Elyse.

      Congratulations on 26 years; hope you had a blast at the dinner & the play.

      It was cold & raining last night so we had “date night” at home, in the garage, with a space heater and some tunes hoping the Tigers would play but they got rained out. So we entertained ourselves by re-recording the outgoing message on the house phone; I think we had 12 tries b/c we both kept laughing each time we tried to speak. We’re goofy idiots like that. 🙂


  4. September must be the right ‘hinge’ month as today is our 28th anniversary. Wow! I love your analogy to the hinge. And I think you and your man are perfectly matched.

    • Wow, Renee, that’s fantastic!! Good for you 🙂

      We’ve been married 20 years, together 21, and will have our 21st anniversary in April … regardless, I loved that quote b/c it’s a nice little reminder that things don’t have to be perfect to be good.

      He has been a big help to me of late, I’ve struggled through some decisions and he’s been right there, encouraging, supporting and prompting. He makes me think and I love that!

      Happy Anniversary to you & your hinge 🙂


  5. cooper

    Hope you had a great anniversary. All hinges need oil from time to keep to keep from rusting shut…

    • Thank you for your kind wishes, Coop … actually our anniversary isn’t till April; we had a Date night because we could 🙂

      And I agree, attention to the relationship is the oil that keeps the hinges moving easily!

  6. Love the quote! Love the analogy!

    Hubby and I have been together 36+ years and known each other for 37+. We’ve been married over half my life and I can’t imagine how my life would have been without him. I can’t pinpoint when I knew for sure we were that match, but over the years I have learned that we complete each other. We offset the other’s deficits and boost the other’s positive attributes. Hubby is a logical, practical, feet on the ground guy; I’m a creative, spontaneous dreamer. Opposites do attract. We just put some hinges on a door….when you look closely at how a hinge works, you see that opposing motion going on, exactly what’s necessary to make the hinge work. A little oil to keep them working properly and protection from the elements….works for hinges and for relationships….

    • Thank you, and thank you for sharing your story; I love to hear how others met, evolved and grew as couples – 37 years – Wowza!

      Happy Sunday!

  7. I like this quote, “combined flaws!” Sometimes my husband and I are more different than similar. We have been held together at times by children, history, and love. But not necessarily because we are alike. Maybe the flaws play a bigger part than I want to admit! ~ Sheila

    • Thank you, I liked it, too. In my young years, I thought (natively) that someone right for me would be just like me – how wrong I was. Hubbs and I are alike where it counts – principles, values and how we go about most things. We’re dissimilar just enough to keep it interesting 🙂

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