Monthly Archives: January 2013

It’s not forever

Till we’ll go from this:


to this:


to this:


to this:


and back around to this:


“Once she stopped rushing through life, she was amazed how much more life she had time for.” – Unknown


Frankie has perfected the art of slowing down.

Frankie has mastered the art of slowing down.

Have a great day, friends!

*all Emjayandthem photos

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Good luck butta-what

It’s that time again … time for yet another tried-and-true recipe from the Emjayandthem vault.

One so simple, so good, so to-heck-with-New-Years-resolutions-where’s-the-chocolate kinda good.

It’s my Butterfinger Cake.

You read that right:  Butterfinger.  Cake.

Mmmm hmm.

Have Mercy!

Have Mercy!

So here’s the thing. I’m not a chocolate girl. I’m a potato-chip-and-dip kinda girl.   But, lots of my friends and family are admitted chocolate fiends and since I like to mess around in my Kitchen and get ‘er done, here’s what came of it.

Yep, goofing off in the kitchen and making up something fun brings out the kid in me.

Back to the cake, Jake.

So, a few years ago I came up with this lil beauty.  At the time, youngest boy had a severe hankering for Butterfingers.  And he had a birthday coming up.  Easy, peasy, pudding and pie, this Mom’s gonna bake that boy a cake that’ll make his toes curl.

And it did.

And it wouldn’t be very nice of me to keep it all to myself, now would it?

Here’s what you need to make your very own Butterfinger cake:

You thought this was going to be complicated? Naw ..

You thought this was going to be complicated? Naw ..

  • 1 box of Yellow Cake Mix, any Brand.
  • 1 box of Butterscotch Instant Jell-O Pudding
  • 3 Butterfinger candy bars
  • 1 jar of Chocolate frosting


Grandma Pearl gave me that mixer in 1981

Grandma Pearl gave me that mixer in 1981

Prepare the cake as directed but also add the Butterscotch pudding mix. Mix all ingredients.

Pour one half of the mixture into a well greased Bundt pan (you could also use a 9 x13 pan) then top with 2 crumbled Butterfinger bars.

Oh yeah

Oh yeah

Pour the rest of the batter on top, be sure to cover the Butterfinger bits.

Cover it up as best as you can

Cover it up as best as you can

Bake according to the directions on the cake mix box .. roughly 26-28 min.

Remove from oven and let sit in the pan for about 4 minutes (this is important, if you don’t let it sit it will fall apart when you try to remove it from the pan.)

C'mere sweetness

C’mere sweetness

Take a butter knife and loosen all around the Bundt pan (don’t forget the center).  Place a baking rack on top and flip the whole thing over; gently shake the pan and watch the cake slide out.

Hello? Is it me you're looking for?

Hello? Is it me you’re looking for?

Let the cake cool on the baking rack — about 45 min or until your kid or spouse walks by and asks if they can eat it yet.

Nuke (microwave) a can of pre-made frosting (be sure to remove the lid and the foil liner) for 30 – 40 seconds, just enough to warm it and make it pour-able.

Pour it all over that beautiful cake; get jiggy with it.



Ready?  Crumble the last Butterfinger. Eat whatever falls off.

Load up the top of that cake with more crumbled Butterfinger pieces

Load up the top of the cake with more crumbled goodness

Last step.

Good luck.


Yep, good luck getting this cake out of the house.  Your church group, office mates and Super Bowl watchers are gonna have to settle for something else.

You're weclome.

Good Luck Butta What.  You’re welcome.

Have any fun, easy recipes to share?

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Friday vacancy

It’s Friday!

Friday! Friday! Friday!

A gloriously happy and favorite word graces our lips today! F-r-i-d-a-y!

friday cat

There’s always lots to be done:  calls to make, meetings to attend, and projects to wrap up. There are schedules to arrange, trips to plan, and conference calls to coordinate.  Presentations to line out, contracts to research and, and, and.


Later today, when the sun starts to fade and I close my laptop and shut off my phone, there begins a bit of time that I like to call “purposeful nothingness.”

Sure there will be some cleaning and and some cooking this weekend but mostly? Mostly there will be vacancy.  There will be time … to just be.

Weekends don’t count unless you spend them doing something completely pointless.  ~Bill Watte

Are you able to purposefully “waste” time?  

*image from Pinterest

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You’re the apple

I shared a favorite quote with a fellow blogger who needed to read it.

And then I thought, you might need to read them, too.

Words to remember when the road gets rocky, the load is heavy, and you just can’t see the point.

“God knows your value; He sees your potential.

You may not understand everything you are going through right now.

But hold your head up high, knowing that God is in control and he has a great plan and purpose for your life.

Your dreams may not have turned out exactly as you’d hoped, but the Bible says that God’s ways are better and higher than our ways, even when everybody else rejects you, remember, God stands before you with His arms open wide.



He always accepts you.

He always confirms your value.  God sees your two good moves!

You are His prized possession.

No matter what you go through in life, no matter how many disappointments you suffer, your value in God’s eyes always remains the same.

You will always be the apple of His eye.

He will never give up on you, so don’t give up on yourself.” – Joel Osteen

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“Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious.” ~Bill Meyer

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Baby, it’s cold outside

I woke up to temps hovering at 1 degrees F (that’s -22C for my Canadian/European readers).

That’s cold. Darn cold.

photo courtesy of the Farmers Almanac.

photo courtesy of the Farmers Almanac.

It’s the kind of cold that used to garner us kids a phone call from Elliott the bus driver: “Back to bed, kids, the bus won’t start!”  We kids would squeal and race back to our covers; Mom would pull her house coat tighter and start a new pot of coffee.

It’s the kind of cold that freezes your nostrils together long before you make it to the barn.

It’s the kind of cold that makes every single effort that much more challenging: simply leaving the house takes longer b/c the car must be warmed up first.

It’s the kind of cold that demands I pack my lunch for no one is venturing out in this later on.

It’s the kind of cold that makes me long for someone to cancel my day so I could instead snuggle in and read, sip coffee and look out instead of in.

Baby, it’s cold outside.

It’s that kind of cold.

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Savoring Sundays

Today, the wind is howling.

Today, the fence fell down.

Today, the temps are dropping and even old dog is stayin’ inside.

Today, Elvis, Merle and others will join me when I simmer, sauce and sample.

Today is Sunday and it feels like it’s all mine.

“Sunday is the golden clasp that binds together the volume of the week.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

What’s your favorite day of the week? How do you savor it?

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Facial lessons

“Some people come into your life as blessings; others come as lessons.”

This is the face I’ve caught myself making when encountering yet another lesson.



Happy day, all.

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What Lingered in Linden

So a road trip yesterday had me stopping for coffee and a bite to eat at the Linden Hotel in S.E. Michigan.

This is an old town, the hotel was established in 1840 and a sign on the front stoop says so.

Known for their home-made goodies and excellent lunches, we were told this would be a good place to stop after a meeting earlier that day.

But what we didn’t know is that the hotel is supposedly haunted.

I noticed something was up right away; having turned my (android) phone off while in meetings, I expected a full charge when I powered it back up.  It was .. and then it wasn’t.  Saying nothing, I watched as two main screen images superimposed themselves over each other.  I also noticed I wasn’t getting my work emails and the time display was stuck on one time.

Making general conversation with the waitress, my colleagues asked about the hotel’s history.  Smiling, she said, “oh, would you like to see our ghost book?”

Immediately one said “no, not me, I’m scared of that stuff.” She replied, “oh you’ll be fine” and stepped away to retrieve a binder filled with photos and anecdotes from previous visitors.

Intrigued, we asked her to tell us more.

“Well, I’ve worked here for many years and often come in to find the silverware upside down or unwrapped.  We’ve had bartenders witness bottles fly off the bar and cooks hear someone call their name.  The most activity is in the upstairs ladies bathroom and in the mens room on this floor.  There’s a little girl here, she died in a fire, she plays upstairs.  The others we aren’t so sure about.”

My colleagues smiled and went back to their food and I looked at my phone again. Nothing. The time was frozen at the time we entered the building: 2:02 pm and the battery was almost dead.

One photo in the book caught us all by surprise, especially when she told us the story behind it.

Apparently a group of local folks who do Civil War reenactments did so on the upper floor of the hotel while it was under renovation.  See the soldier by the chair?  Folks who participated noticed him after the images were developed; no one knows who he is, as every other member was accounted for.

Weird hey?

While the experience was unusual, I can tell you I wasn’t scared. I also don’t mind telling you that  there was no part of me that was going upstairs to the ladies’ room: I trust my intuition!  I had to giggle when my colleagues bade a hasty retreat after they were “visited” by yellow lights in the mens’ room.  Suggestion or real?

I am not sure what to think about all this but I do know this: we were a full 70 miles west of there before my phone returned to normal, the time reset and 67 new emails showed up.

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What do you think?  Do you believe in ghosts? Have you ever visited someplace haunted? Were you visited by something while you were there?

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on Racing

I read a quote last night that stuck with me:  “If you’re always racing to the next moment, what happens to the one you’re in?”

Wow, is that ever my life right now.

List-maker, do-er, chief domestic engineer.  Full-time staffer, Mom, wife, Nana, cousin, sister, friend.

The weekend was just here, right?

We had a full day Saturday so Sunday was my cook-a-bunch of stuff/get the laundry done/talk to my Mom and such kinda day … then came Monday, and it started all over again.


where is it?

Somewhere in there is room for me, right?

I think the reason that quote hits me so hard is that we just had 10 days off — 10 glorious days over Christmas to enjoy — 10 days we spent …  s i c k.

I’m glad we had the time off to rest … but those best laid plans of fireside chats and trying new restaurants and sleeping in … were replaced by extra blankets, Vicks  Vapo-rub and soup.

Now, we’re back in the trenches.  Back in the guts and the glory without the time off we worked all year to get.


Anyone else need a “do over” button?

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Walkin’ on sunshine

It’s been a crazy, hectic couple of weeks.

Went back to work after 10 days of vacation, most of which was spent dealing with the flu.

Finally mustered the energy to de-Christmas the house, putting the tree, lights and tinsel away on Thursday.

Made it through yesterday and was very happy just to stay home last night and listen to the rain fall.


All that changed today — why?

The sun’s shining!

I know, it probably doesn’t seem like much to those of you who see the sun all the time but here in Michigan, where January days = cloud cover, this is a big deal.

Everything is brighter.  Old dog is happier. Hubbs is humming.

I’m walking on sunshine, oh yeah, and it’s starting to feel good!

“A light wind swept over the corn, and all nature laughed in the sunshine.” – Anne Bronte

What’s it like in your part of the world today?

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Close, clear & release

Close your eyes.  Clear your heart. Let it go.

sleeping puppy

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” ―Ann Landers

What are you hanging on to? Can you let it go?

* image from Pinterest

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Under Merle’s direction

It’s a toe-tappin’ two steppin’ kind of song.  The kind of song that makes a girl want a twirly skirt and a man who’ll spin her in it.

The kind of song that makes the kids groan and roll their eyes. The kind of song that makes us laugh and sing along, heh heh.

I think ole Merle has some good advice here, don’t you?

Let’s chase each other ’round the room tonight
Let’s play the games we played on our wedding night
To lock and bolt the door is only right
Let’s chase each other ’round the room tonight

Seems like lately people love to play with fire
The other games they play are just as bad
I’d rather stay at home and feel your burning lips
And play the kind of games that make me glad

Let’s don’t chase around and make each other weary
Let’s keep all our love at home and out of sight
Let’s leave everything like jealousy behind us
And let’s chase each other ’round the room tonight

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On Dating

Songs I love to sing with him

The significance of date nights

What’s in your relationship basket?

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