10 on 50

me .. just before my 50th birthday bash!

me .. just before my 50th birthday bash!

I turned 50 last month and with that came 10 Thoughts on turning 50:

1) no I will never have Botox, it took me this long to perfect the perfect stink-eye – the one that can stop a kid in his tracks and make a husband drop the shovel as he’s digging himself a hole.

2) buy me a bladder/bowel control product as a joke and I’ll whack you with it.

3) bring on the AARP discounts!!

4) 50 is the new 40 and 40 is the new 30 so I’m really .. 8! πŸ™‚

5) thank goodness for hair dye, sunscreen, vitamin D & laughter.

6) wrinkles only go where the smiles have been, right?

7) it’s not a hot flash it’s a simmer.

8) my give-a-d _ mn’s busted.Β  No whining. Unless it’s by me, of course!

9) 50 years till I turn 100 and…

10) Women outlive men — look out!

β€œThere is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”
― Sophia Loren

Your turn.Β  What has aging brought to you?

*This post inspired by my friend Lynette who’s soldiering through terminal cancer. Over cocktails last night she expressed her gratitude:Β  Her thankfulness for a life well lived, for time to get her affairs in order and to host one last summer party. She’s 55.

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47 thoughts on “10 on 50

  1. That brought it all into perspective, didn’t it, MJ? Kind of like when I turned 30….didn’t bother me at all. My sister had lamented turning 30, but she didn’t make it to her 31st birthday….
    I love your list!
    Oh, and 50? You’re just a child! πŸ˜‰

    • Yes, her situation really has put things into perspective. I don’t know why we need those little reminders to treasure life but we do.


  2. cooper

    I’m trying to age gracefully. I really am. But it’s not working so well. I’m not thrilled that i’m less than 4 years away from 60…or that both my kids are in their 30s now. I hold prayer vigils each morning for the lost hair resting silently on my pillow, and for the spare tire that never seems to deflate, or, as you so perfectly put it, the total lack of give a d***. Trying to look for the silver lining…some days are more successful than others…

  3. Your post reminded me of one I wrote when I turned 50 last September. I celebrated that birthday joyfully, too, because I had lost 2 friends (one aged 46, the other aged 47) shortly before. They both would have loved to have seen 50. Here’s my 10 reasons why 50 is better than 30:

  4. I am so sorry about your friend. That is just too young. You are a babe! Gorgeous and young and 50 is the new 30 so you might really be 6.

  5. Like #1, #6 and #7 is so funny. You take life seriously, but never yourself. Well played.

  6. Love your list! I agree with every one of these! I definitely feel younger than 52…I often say I feel somewhere in the early 40s…and happy to be there! The quote says it all. Hadn’t seen this one before. Perfect! ~ Sheila

  7. I love #6–“Wrinkles only go where the smiles have been!” By the way, I don’t know if it’s sunscreen or incredible GENES, but your skin is amazing. That’s such a beautiful close-up of you!

    MJ, you’ve given me a lot to look forward to in the coming years! πŸ™‚

    • I’m happy that I have more smile lines than frown lines πŸ™‚

      Thank you for the compliment; I’ve always had pretty good / clear skin but finally got smart about taking care of it in my late 30s. Wish I’d smartened up sooner.

      Cheers! MJ

  8. I’m totally looking forward to turning 50 in December… Some of my favorite bloggers were born in 1963 πŸ™‚

  9. i love that sophia loren quote! you look fantastic πŸ™‚

    • I love that quote, too — she’s one of my favorite older ladies — still smokin’ hot, too!
      thanks for your kind words

  10. great list. love your attitude. I’ve got you beat by 5 yrs and Love being 55. #10 made me smile..(the genetic pool I’m blessed with has given the men in my family a slight edge…Grandpa was 99 and grandma 95 or 96, so I’m not planning to be done any time soon, although I know, nothing is for sure.Just one life lesson I’ll share, it’s something my dad still says @ 81…”retirement is not in my vocabulary” (he’s still farming and doing construction.) great post.

    • It would not come as a surprise to you that my #1 topic I’ve written on in my nearly 3 years of blogging is … attitude. HA!

      I think you’ll be just as feisty and even more wise when you hit 95 — and, hopefully, still writing πŸ™‚

      Loved that quote from your Dad,

  11. Very happy birthday! I think it’s really important to age gracefully — sadly, actual aging doesn’t make it as easy as it is in our mind! πŸ™‚

  12. Happy Birthday MJ! πŸ™‚ I’m looking forward to reading your timely observations and remembrances of a life well lived for a long, long time.

  13. I love your attitude and your list.

    Aging has brought me wisdom; lots of it. I’ll turn 50 next year (in September), and haven’t really thought about it. Growing up, we always had birthday parties. And because Dad’s birthday was when we were always at our summer cottage, there was always a big cocktail party. I particularly remember when Dad turned 50: lots of friends were there, and it was a great time. Unfortunately, my husband doesn’t like to celebrate his birthday (he’s hitting #60 in about 2 weeks), therefore, he never throws me a birthday party. I try to at least go out to lunch with a girlfriend. I should throw myself a 50th party!

    • Your Dad’s summer bday parties sound wonderful πŸ™‚

      My Hubbs is not a bday guy either, a Virgo who’d rather be home than have a bash. He knows me well enough to ask what I wanted for my 50th – my answer was “a party of course.” I planned it, organized it, handled the invites, the bar, the music and the food (with his input) It was a blast. I highly recommend throwing yourself a 50th bday party – if not then, when?


      • I did the same thing for my 40th. I organized it, sent out invites, had a time in the evening for roasting me, even did some skits. For my 50th I had my wife send out letters to people asking them to write somethings down they appreciate about me . (I was behind the whole thing/ but used her as a cover;-)) Even opened up a temporary post office mail box they could send them to, so I wouldn’t get wind of it …told them it was a secret thing she was putting together for me…why wait till I’m in the box in the funeral home for people to voice those things..and me not there to hear them. Anyway, I ended up with a 3 ring binder full of meaningful notes and letters…even one from both of my parents…

      • That’s a great idea … why wait till the funeral home, indeed? Thanks DM! MJ

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    • Thank you sweet friend! I appreciate your thinking of me πŸ™‚ MJ

      • πŸ™‚ Happy 50th MJ!!! Seriously gf you do not look 50…everyone tells me I do not look that old….so it has to be that country girl thing:) They raise them right on the farm:)

      • thank you! What a sweet comment … yeah maybe it’s that farm living! I wish I still lived on a farm (without all the chores of course)


  15. Cheers and prayers to Lynette for being such a positive inspiration. Love your perspective on aging.

    I think the biggest thing that has come to me with age is that I’m finally able to stop caring so much about what everyone else thinks. I’ve wasted way too many years worrying about it.

    • I will pass on the prayers, thank you.

      Yep — not spending our days worrying about what someone else is (probably not even) thinking.

      Doing a lot less of that these days!

  16. Turned 50 this month too MJ! 1963 was a very good year. Cheer’s to the next 50 my friend. May we have our faculties intact, no walkers in tow, lots of red wine, chocolate and exotic vacations with cabana boys for visual enjoyment.

    • Happy belated birthday, Sheryl. I just loved your bday wishes and may steal them to share with others — they’re that delicious!

  17. Love the stink eye reason. Classic!

  18. Hugs to Lynette. You are wearing 50 quite well, MJ!

  19. Whew…an opportunity to share what I’m grateful for in my fifties! Well, I haven’t let myself go by any means, but I don’t do the full make up job when I leave the house unless it’s a special occasion. I realize now that if they are not pleased with me…it really has nothing to do with me. When it does, apologies come more easily. Being a grandmother is a sacred position. There are so many but those are some good ones…

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  21. You certainly don’t look a day over 40, so that whole “50 is the new 40” may be true. πŸ™‚ That AARP membership will pay for itself the first time you book a hotel room–love it! And to that list of “hair dye, sunscreen, vitamin D & laughter” I would also add Advil and Icy Hot!

    • Hubbs and I booked a hotel room for a trip soon using his AARP discount – whee! Advil and Icy hot – duly noted πŸ˜‰

      Thanks for the good wishes & kind words,

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