See the need

I admit it: I’m a softie for men who share their feelings.

Hubbs does it easily, my Dad, loving and kind, showed it in the tender way he cared for us and all living things.

When a man shares his thoughts openly, there’s a certain level of trust that’s required, paired with the confidence of knowing that sharing their most heartfelt thoughts is possible… and not punishable.

My Iowa blogging friend, Rich Ripley, is a such a man.

His posts are usually crafted with a healthy dose of humor, but every so often, he lets himself go there. 

He goes where most rarely will. He goes deep.

This post, about holidays and loneliness and the true meaning of Christmas, is one of those posts.  Read on….

I distinctly remember Christmas Eve that night. I watched the dinner time news (all the talk was of Christmas events…go figure). The TV shows were (surprise) Christmas shows. I turned the TV off, and took a look outside my apartment window and saw….multicolored Christmas lights glistening off of a blanket of new fallen snow (no lying…north-central Iowa gets snow early and often).

I heard church bells ringing as Christmas Eve services started and ended.

It was awful. I was so alone. I went to bed early…I couldn’t take the depressing heaviness on my heart any longer. Dear God…so alone and sad. Thankfully…I fell asleep quickly.   

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is there room for one more?

room for one more? (google images)

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15 thoughts on “See the need

  1. I have a soft spot for anyone who shares their feelings, to be honest. But it is much rarer in men. At least that’s my experience. Thanks for sharing Rich with us. I’m headed over there now.

    Happy Thanksgiving, MJ!

    Hugs from Ecuador,

    • I agree that it’s more often men who aren’t encouraged or supported to share their feelings; Rich does that openly and he’s fun to read. Enjoy!
      Happy Thanksgiving to you, Kathy – I’m looking forward to hearing how your restaurant adventure goes 🙂

  2. Thanks for sharing Rich…I understand how he feels.

  3. We’ve been graciously welcomed when we were a lost little family without the bigger family group to join…and we’ve shared our table with others when they’ve needed a welcome and a holiday home. It’s a joy to give and to bless. Thanks for the reminder and encouragement to see. ~ Sheila

    • Yep, we’ve been invited to and have returned the favor as well — a big, full table is personally my favorite 🙂 Our table will be groaning today with the happy sounds of little ones and big ones – Happy Thanksgiving, Sheila!

  4. Thanks for sharing this, MJ. I visited Rich’s blog and left a comment.

    • You’re welcome- I read that blog a bit ago and knew immediately that he deserved a wider audience; I could feel the loneliness and see the Christmas lights as I read his post .. and I could feel his joy when he realized the right thing to do was to invite that other fellow along. Wonderful.

      Happy Thanksgiving to you, MM, Marshall and Sundae-girl!

  5. Thank you Marilyn. Its humbling to be mentioned and have ones blog shared on your blog, of which I hold in high esteem. Have a great holiday. 🙂

  6. cooper

    I consider myself blessed to have rarely felt lonely on the holidays – I’ve felts all sorts of other emotions but there has always been people around. I think we should have a national gift-less xmas day party open to everyone – just bring something to eat to share. Maybe rent out the Javitz Center in New York or something…

    • I’ve spent a few holidays alone and/or far from family/without my own – and I’ve never forgotten that feeling — at the “most wonderful time of the year” which kinda wasn’t.

      I like your idea about the gift-less day to just gather, eat and share = Wonderful!
      Happy Thanksgiving, Coop.
      PS I loved your song list post 🙂

  7. Thanks for sharing Rich’s story, MJ. For much of this year, where certain family members are concerned, I’ve forgotten what’s really important. I’m going to try really hard to remember that love is what it’s all about. And though I don’t know if I’ll encounter anyone who will be alone on Christmas, if I do,they’ll be welcomed to our family celebration.

    • Well, when certain people (family or otherwise) are being difficult, it can certainly shift one’s feeling about a looming holiday — I try not to let anyone steal my joy, but sometimes I’m not as successful at it as others. Yesterday, we had a very relaxed day with our kids & little ones; everyone was happy to be here and it showed in their faces all day long. On impulse, I sent a note to my FB community yesterday opening our home to anyone without plans – we had lots of food and could have made room for more. No one took me up on the offer, but I’m glad I did it.


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