First friends

Growing up, I was lucky to have so many cousins.

I had fun cousins.  Older cousins, bigger cousins.

Girl cousins and boy cousins. Near and far cousins.

Cousins that I knew well, others not as much, but when we got together, we were a rowdy bunch.

We went sledding and skating, played “duck-duck-goose,” built forts, staged plays and played…. hard.

We could play anywhere – in basements, barns and bedrooms.

Our mothers kicked us outside so we kicked the can, played tag in the barnyard, ran around and came back breathless and red-faced to share the kids table, practice our choir songs, tease, laugh and cheer each other on.

So I get it.

I get it how a herd of kids at a family gathering – related through various branches of the same tree – can meet up again and immediately friendships are formed.

Hands are held.

Toys are shared.

Secrets are whispered.

Hugs are given and love is in the room.

Cousins Sam, Olivia, Ayden and Mylee; an emjayandthem(C) photo

Cousins Sam, Olivia, Ayden and Mylee; an emjayandthem(C) photo

At Christmas, cousins are the presents under the tree.”~ Karen Decourcey

Did you grow up with cousins? Do you remember the ‘kids table?’

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  1. I had lots of cousins, as well–though only one who I spent LOTS of time with. Most were a lot older than I, and several were lots younger. I DO remember the kids table, also.

    Hugs from Ecuador,

    • do you keep in touch with them now, Kathy? We didn’t get a kids table until we outgrew the main table .. soon there just wasn’t room for all of us!

  2. I think it was your piece on one special cousin that brought me to your blog. Yes, yes, I remember cousins…my lifelong friends!

    • I think it was my piece on Diana that brought you to my blog, because I remember you asking to link to it re: serendipity. Lifelong friends – that’s it for cousins for sure!

  3. I did grow up with cousins sitting @ the kids table. How did you know? I was the oldest on both sides of the family. Can’t say I have the warm memories that you do. When reading this post the word “presents” came floating to the surface. Waiting to open the presents grandpa and grandma had under the Christmas tree…You are such a good grandma. 🙂

    • Oh remember the excitement in the air just waiting to tear into all those presents? My Grandparents had a ton of grandchildren but they had a way of making us each feel treasured and loved. I am really fortunate to have had them as role models for Grandparenting — the only difference is that I’m doing it about 20 years sooner and with 2 not 25!! 🙂

      Cheers! MJ

  4. I was the youngest of maybe 35 cousins and I was more the age of the cousins children of which there were even more. I had a cousin who had 12 kids, the oldest was my age! It was always fun although there were too many to exchange gifts. It was a lot more fun in the summertime when we had picnics. It’s hard to have a baseball or volleyball game in the house. Mothers get cranky about that.

    • Yeah, Mothers with their faces in the ovens and their best china on the table don’t take kindly to hockey games in the house, either 🙂

      Summertime picnics and dodgeball games were the best, too!

  5. Yes, I, too, had cousins. I am going to post a series on those cousins…what fun!

  6. What a lovely post! I have a lot of cousins, and whenever we get together it’s always rowdy, fun and filled with laughter (even as adults)! It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen each other, there’s just a special bond, and they really are best friends 🙂 And I definitely remember the kids table… 🙂

    • That’s wonderful, Dounia. I love that you still get together and have fun .. we don’t get to do so as often but, when we do, it’s great. MJ

  7. It’s so interesting that you should mention the things you did with your cousins. I was just thinking about this over Thanksgiving. We played games. We hiked the forest. I never recall us watching television unless it was a huge event like ‘The Sound of Music.’ As usual you have your finger right on the pulse of what we are all thinking about.

    • You’re right on – we weren’t watching TV unless it was something huge as you described — maybe the “Wizard of Oz” or a special Christmas show – Andy Williams or Sonny & Cher? We were too busy strategizing which hill to take on next with our new sleds 🙂 MJ

  8. I’ve not kept in touch with most of my cousins. I grew up with my nieces and nephews (who lived out of state) at holidays, at the kid’s table, and in the backyard.

    • I have some that I am very close to and some I never see or hear from – and that’s OK. And the kid’s table was (mostly) a fun place to be 🙂 MJ

  9. Such happy memories 😀

  10. Oh, yes! I can totally relate! The cousins on my dad’s side of the family were close in age to my siblings and me. We LOVED when there were family get-togethers and we could see each other. We had the most fun in the upstairs of Grandma’s house. There wasn’t much for toys, but an old typewriter and some other cast-off junk kept us entertained when the weather kept us inside. When we could be outside, there was a neighborhood to explore together. Thanks for bringing back the good memories, MJ!

    • Isn’t it funny the things that kept us entertained? an old typewriter & other assorted stuff== and you could play for hours. Ahhh!

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