The fight

“A fight is going on inside me,” said an old man to his son. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One wolf is evil. He is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other wolf is good. he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

The same fight goes on inside you.”

The son thought about it for a minute and then asked, “Which wolf will win?”

The old man replied simply, “The one you feed.”
Native American proverb

Who are you feeding?wolf cubs napping

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  1. Roxanne

    The perfect parable, the perfect life lesson for every human being! Thank you for sharing. I wish all parents would share with their children. A big smile and hug to you this cold, snowy morning, Marilyn!

    • Well, yes, by all means share with the kids — but … share with the adults, too. I shared it for ME as much as anyone else. I really struggle with the balance sometimes. I get stuck on that “forgive & forget” thing .. I can forgive, seems I can’t … forget.

      🙂 MJ

  2. hmmm…I can’t believe the timing of this. Parenting has to be one of the hardest and yet joyful jobs we will ever love. Read my next post to answer your question.

  3. I’d like to say I always feed the good wolf, but I would be lying. Went to a men’s conference a year ago now with 28 others men, many of them had been feeding the “evil wolf” to the degree their families were starting to unravel. This is not the place to tell that whole story, but one of the truths I heard hat weekend does pertain to this theme of who am I feeding…. All of us have pockets of darkness in our souls,(if we’re really honest with ourselves) and yet the darkness does not have to define who I am. “A good man falls down 7 times, but the Lord will pick him up…” (or something like that) 😉 Have a great week! DM

    • looks like I’m missing a “t” in that comment.

    • Absolutely, DM, we all have the good, the bad, and the ugly … “fall down 7 times, get up 8”

      I was faced with a challenge today and it forced me to put away past hurts and do the right thing, and I did it. And I’m glad. Know why? It was the right thing. …. Wins every time!
      😉 MJ

  4. Unfortunately we sometimes (unwittingly I hope) throw enough crumbs to be bad wolf to keep him around.

  5. I can always count on you, MJ, to give me food for thought! Enjoy your day –

    • Well .. the holidays are coming. Personalities tossed into a room, add relatives, pressure, financial stress, too much to do and BAM – everyone’s not thinking about “the reason for the season.” We all have a little of both in us .. which one wins?

  6. Definitely food for thought!

  7. I love that story — a friend of mine shared it with me a couple of years ago and it’s really stuck with me.

    • I agree, Steve. It’s one that I’ve read many times but it always has impact on me and, for some reason, it resonates this busy holiday season! Bests to you, MJ

  8. I’ve heard this story many times, and yet, it has the same powerful impact each time I read it again. Thanks for sharing MJ

  9. I love this parable! I’ve read it before and been struck by the vivid image, and the truth / punch of the last sentence. I think most people feed both positive and negative parts of themselves…that’s the continual struggle, just as the others who have commented express. This so perfectly captures the human condition. Thanks for the reminder to feed the good! I’ve been feeding the busyness of life the last few weeks…ready to get off the merry-go-round and feed the important (a different twist on the good / evil theme!) ~ Sheila

    • I agree; it’s a constant balancing act. I always aim to be that person the boys think I am: wise and considerate at all times – yeah, not always. I try to be, but “falling down is part of life, getting back up is living.”

      Cheers! MJ

  10. Such a good lesson, especially this time of year. I think, on a daily basis, I struggle with which wolf to feed. Most days, the good wolf wins out. But not always.

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