Praise and be raised

Spring visited us Sunday … balmy, humid and breezy, I was able to wear a short-sleeved shirt around the house!  Feeling the warmth, I started to complain about my clothes sticking to me as I did my chores.  Then I remembered that it’s been 6 months without a hoodie OVER that tee-shirt – and I stopped in my tracks.   I remembered something learned in childhood:

If you complain you’ll remain; if you praise, you’ll be raised.

I’m a farmer’s daughter. The daughter of an optimist.

Next year will be better.

Now that was something he said often.

This moisture is good for the soil. 

I could hear his voice as I looked at the snow this morning.

At least there’s no dust storms!

There he is again.

Transitioning to a work story, I completed employee reviews last week.

This was my second round for two of them and first time for the newest.  I read through my assessments and wrote down examples of all of the good work they’re doing.  We had positive, open discussions.  Every one of them shared similar feedback: “This is the most thorough performance evaluation I’ve ever had, thank you for the examples.”  “Thank you for the time you put into this, I appreciate the examples and knowing why you gave me the score you did.”  “Thank you for all of this feedback; this really helps me understand the job better and I appreciate knowing I am doing it well.”

I’m so glad my Father taught me to praise and be raised.

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All this snow is good moisture!

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  1. Love your positive spin, MJ….and obviously those employees whom you evaulated are benefiting from it, too!

    • Thank you. I’ve had some really bad bosses who taught me what NOT to do — example — no one wants to hear “great job” without hearing why. Otherwise .. it sounds insincere. The team is 3 good people who work really hard and they do far more right than they ever do wrong 🙂

  2. One another little site where I maintain a presence, I’ve been been keeping a gratitude journal through Lent, listing three things each day I’m grateful for. It’s easy to grouse, less so to be grateful, every day. It does make a difference in life!

    • Love it! And yes, it makes a huge difference. It’s easy to get sucked into the negatives of day-to-day life, and I’m not immune. But when I purposefully count my blessings I find I suddenly have too many to count 🙂 MJ

  3. People like you are so fun to be around. There is nothing worse than a complainer. When I worked I saw that all the time. Sometimes an employee was a good worker but such a whiner that it became tiresome. Sounds like you have a great crew working with you.

    • I agree; we all complain, it’s human nature, and I certainly do my share. But – being around a constant whiner is draining … ugh! I have a good team of 3 really talented employees who are all great people and work hard. All they need are the tools to do their jobs and the “atta boy/girl” when they really knock it out of the park 🙂 Having had some REALLY bad bosses, I know just what NOT to do 🙂

  4. It’s a huge gift to be able to recognize and identify the strengths of others. I don’t doubt for a minute that you have that ability. Love how you learned it.

    Hugs from Ecuador,

    • I do think it takes a certain amount of confidence to praise others and do it sincerely; everyone can detect a half-hearted compliment. One boss I had always made my employee review about him .. good gravy he was exhausting and even though he (mostly) had good things to say, I left the appt annoyed and deflated. It was a good life lesson for me — if you’re going to take the time to give feedback, make it palatable! MJ

  5. love it! and I am a farmers son 😉 Cultivating a good attitude is also one of the biggest gifts my dad passed on to me growing up. Yesterday my son texted me and shared there was a lot of negative drama on his construction crew during the day. I listened and had to agree..It is SO draining to be around a bunch of negativity, and non the flip side, a positive work environment helps the day go by much faster and is makes hard work easier to digest. Your co-workers are blessed (and I’m sure they know it) 😉 DM

    • I knew you would get my farm references, DM 🙂

      Not many of us are going to get through life without working so we might as well make it as enjoyable as possible. I’m very fortunate to work with some talented people whom I happen to enjoy as people, too!!

  6. there have been times when I’ve told someone (who’s complaining) “you just can’t be happy unless you’re unhappy.” 🙂

  7. I had a similar review with my own boss, and I too appreciated specific examples and feedback.You gave your employees a gift by investing time and being committed to giving them a fair and thorough review.

    And I agree with you about keeping a positive outlook. There’s too much sarcasm and cynicism in the world. We need more uplifting influences.

    • I am so glad you had that experience, Terri. That’s the kind of review I want but don’t often get. Thoughtful, thorough, and not a “drive by.”

      I have this little sign on my desk, “Falling down is part of life; getting back up is living.” Cheers!

  8. Ah, you learned your lessons well! Sounds like a beautiful soul, both of you! ~ Sheila

  9. Not a farmer’s daughter, but a farmer’s wife and now – a farmer’s mother. It seems we raised our son with the love of dirt in his hands too. It’s easy to complain sometimes, but not helpful. Your underlings will benefit greatly from your attitude, MJ.

    • To love, respect and appreciate the land is a great gift – glad your boy got to experience that valuable lesson 🙂

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