One more

I was talking with oldest boy Saturday when the anger washed over me.

I verbalized my resentment at being skunked out of my last vacation day because of someone else’s emergency.

I get it. It’s part of the job.

Or is it?

Is it part of my job or is it always because another doesn’t – hasn’t – can’t – do theirs?

Yep, there it is.

But this isn’t new, it’s just more.

No one cares.

No one sees.

As long as the project gets done the powers that be won’t ask who did it.

And as we made plans to take the grand kids to a movie today, my boy asked a simple question:

Why don’t you take Monday then?

And so I did.

and there it is

and there it is.Β

Can you relate to this?Β  Whose load are you carrying that you’d like to leave by the side of the river?


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  1. Sweet! Glad you took Monday off! that sort of stuff also rubs on me….”poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.” 20 yrs ago, I took a weekend workshop on assertive communication..(I was a people pleasing, rarely said no kind of person) It was a watershed moment for me..the $45 I spent was a good investment. BTW, I know you are not a people pleaser! You are one of the nicest straight shooting bloggers I regularly interact with. later- DM

    • Oh I think there was a time I was a people pleaser πŸ™‚ I’m learning to push back where I can = this was an instance where doing so was only putting off till Monday what I could do Friday so, in some ways, it was my choice. Having Monday off was a nice change and now I have a 4 day week! MJ

  2. If I had a dollar for every time I had to pull one out of the hat, we’d be in Paris for dinner. That’s Paris, France! Different story but I used to have an employee that needed a lot of affirmation. That’s ok if I’m there but I occasionally had to do it on vacation too. I put an end to it. Unless someone’s life was in danger or the company was going bankrupted BEFORE I got back, I was not to be called. One call I did appreciate though. I was in Las Vegas at an HR convention and I got the call that a particularly nasty exec resigned. I remember jumping on the bed in some sort of Snoopy dance. Glad you are taking Monday. It sort of makes up for it, sort of.

    • Yep, you and me both. I would love the opportunity to do the snoopy dance like that~! Thanks for the support, Kate πŸ™‚ MJ

  3. Once upon a time I worked hard, very hard to get my job done. I thought it went with the territory so I worked and worked. Then, we got new leaders. Two of them saw to it that everyone was held accountable, that there were clear instructions and that the energy, skills and input of all employees was tapped. Wow! All of a sudden I learned, what leadership was and yes, I had been working too hard. My burden was lifted.
    Good for you for taking Monday off.

    • Leadership is a word thrown around loosely but rarely fitting — I’ve had some wonderful leaders in my career but also times like now when the lack thereof is concerning … Ah well. It’s done, I had Monday off and now I head back into the abyss! MJ

  4. Aw….leave it to our “boys” to make everything clear…. Hope you have a great time on Monday!

  5. I get calls from the police/alarm company when some drunk or idiot (sometimes they’re not the same) rattles the door hard enough to make the alarm go off at 2 AM and I get called in to reset the alarm. I doubt that our hgher ups know or care.

    It is…what it is.

  6. I love taking random days off πŸ™‚ I’m glad you treated yourself to the day you deserved!!

    • me too!
      My car was in the shop so I ended up home all day but cooked and cleaned and rested – it was a good day πŸ™‚ MJ

  7. That’s a great quote. Grandkids have a way of making the rest of the world disappear. πŸ™‚ Yes, I can relate, though more so for hubby; so many times the calls from work–but his department is coming together and it’s getting better.

    • We had loads of fun at the movies πŸ™‚ Sometimes things don’t go as planned and that’s OK; I’ll help anyone, I just don’t appreciate always being the one to pull the same person out of the ditch because they’re too lazy/unorganized/incapable to care. Ugh! MJ

  8. Ugh! How frustrating! I think there are very few people who would have to give up a precious, planned vacation day because someone else dropped the ball. No wonder you are so valued. I’m glad you were able to replace your lost day with another.

    • It was frustrating and probably mostly because I don’t feel valued, I feel it’s expected. It’s expected that I’ll “save the day” for another who consistently doesn’t do what’s expected – but somehow that’s allowed. The hypocrisy is monumental. Having Monday off was a decent compromise although I still worked some from home, I was at least AT home and getting some home-things done, too πŸ™‚

      Happy Tuesday! MJ

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