On watering

It’s the time of year when many of us reflect on what’s in the rear view mirror – and what’s out front.  And here’s the thing about resolutions:  I no longer make them.

Nope, not one.  Too much pressure with too few results, in my experience anyways.

Instead I’m looking ahead at my days off and rolling in them.

I’m going to bed when I’m tired and getting up when I’m not.

I’m doing what I want to do and finding that I want to do a lot more!

Over the past couple of years it’s been far more productive to just say “no” to what I don’t want to do,  and to those who would distract me from what matters.

Saying no takes effort, especially for me, a people pleaser, organizer of the fun and keeper of the peace. But – here’s the rub – saying “no” allowed more yes-es.

I’m simply continuing the progress made and looking forward to what’s next.

Some things that have worked for me include:

I’ve stopped trying to do it all, be it all, fix it all for everyone else.

And most importantly, I no longer water the weeds.



 How about you? Do you make New Year’s resolutions?  What do you want more of?


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30 thoughts on “On watering

  1. Nope, no resolutions at all!

  2. You’ll like this one MJ. No resolutions, but a Pinterest board with my desires for 2015! Love your quote about the grass being greener where you water it. True! Happy New Year friend!

  3. love this. I’ve stopped putting my time and interest into relationships that have been one-sided, and have said “no” a lot more often…but been happier for it in the long run.

  4. No resolutions on this end either. I did just decide to slightly change my eating/ water consumption habits in order to shed 10 pounds, but that had nothing to do with the New Year. more of? That is a great question. Probably need to ponder it a little and get back to you. 😉 Enjoy your upcoming break. It sounds wonderful.

  5. I’ve toyed with the idea of resolving to begin my morning walks again…. we’ll see how that goes! I love Renee’s idea of a Pinterest board with desires for the year!

  6. No resolutions here.

  7. Mine is no longer watering the weeds! LOVE THAT. Happy new year’s to you!

  8. I dont make New Years resolutions because it seems like the ones people usually make are a set up for failure more than a challenge to self. Besides, I’m on a path of self improvement anyway. So I’ll aim to strive on with the goal of being authentic, being mindful of others’ right to their soul’s journey (no matter what that looks like), holding a space of compassion, and being loving to myself. Happy New Year!

  9. Your resolutions make perfect sense and I love the idea of not watering the weeds. Haven’t resolved anything yet but will make my list for tomorrow.

  10. Wise and wonderful words. I also find saying ‘no’ to be an acquired skill. Still working on that one.

  11. No resolutions except to resolve to not forget the camera when I walk out the door. Ya never know what you can catch.

  12. “The things you are passionate about are not random. They are your calling.” Must remember that!

    I tend not to make resolutions, at least not very well defined ones. I usually start the year with some general goals in mind, such as “write more often” instead of “write a blog post every day,” or “focus on being healthy” rather than “go to the gym four times a week.” Resolutions that are too specific just seem to be a recipe for failure and end up making me feel like a failure. Better to accept simply doing the best I can and allowing for lapses here and there, because they’re inevitable.

  13. “Faced fears and gained confidence; these efforts have energized me more than any vitamin or skin care product possibly could.” I feel exactly the same way–I just wish it hadn’t taken me so many years to realize how liberating and exhilarating facing those fears could be!

  14. Happy New Year!

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