One letter

This week – like many others – has been a blur.

Outta my way, peeps, I've got places to be!

Outta my way, peeps, I’ve got places to be!

I love the work I do, and usually, feel on top of my game.  To quote my friend Lynette, “Large and in Charge!” 🙂

Something that can derail my peace and happiness is someone else’s last-minute problems becoming mine. 

I can handle it, and often do.  See, I started my working days as an Admin Assistant and worked my way up.  In that role, you wear many hats, get used to juggling knives and quickly finding answers to multiple inquiries.  Those skills have never left me {thank God!} but – when another’s lack of effort becomes a big hairy mess for me to manage- I can do it but often find it then ruins my momentum and steals my joy.

So what I do is this ~ I remove one letter from the word ruin:  that letter is “i.”  When I turn ruin into run – I’m back – Large and In Charge – just like that.

yes i can

What tricks do you use to manage your stress and work load?  Can you relate to “Large and In Charge?”

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18 thoughts on “One letter

  1. I remind myself to make just one tiny step. I can do one little step. Then another….

  2. Diane Helminiak

    I find my boss calling my name first to get something done. When I think I am overwhelmed, I think that he HAS to be three times more overwhelmed and I must be important and good enough for him to call me first.

    • That is a very positive (and healthy) way to look at it, Diane. I appreciate being valued; I don’t appreciate always saving the day for the same person over and over. MJ

  3. I wish had your wisdom when I was “large and in charge.” I simply broke out into a rash! Great advice MJ and even though I am retired now, there are still times when I will remove the “i” from ruin. 🙂

    • oh there are days when I am not as good at it and I just grit my teeth and get through it … but … I like the sound of RUN more than RUIN 🙂 MJ

  4. Sorry you’ve had a rough week. Thankfully, I have little stress in my life these days!

  5. I too feel large and in charge most of the time. As the boss I do have the ability to regulate a fair amount of stuff to keep it from becoming too crazy. In construction that is not always possible, (weather, back orders, other subs falling behind schedule, cash flow, harder and harder to find dependable good help, people changing their mind @ the last minute, people not showing up when they say they will).
    Tricks include, being very good about communicating, staying 3 steps ahead, ability to take power naps w/o guilt, Refusing to work weekends so I can stay on top of things around home, being married to the most awesome woman who understands my need to transition and decompress when I come home the first 30 minutes, and ruthlessly working on staying balanced….I learned the importance of building “margin” in my life back in my late 20’s. If my “energy meter” is starting to go south @ the end of the day, I pay attention, and no longer feel the self imposed pressure to pack that one more thing into my day.

    • sounds like you have defined a very good balance and boundaries for yourself, DM “at the end of the day, I pay attention…”
      well done! MJ

  6. I could use a little more ‘large and in charge.’ In my workplace, there seem to be two groups of people. The doers and the … um … don’t-doers, I guess! I’m a bit like you in that I can multi-task pretty well. But I’ve been stressed lately and I think it’s because I tend to play the role of martyr. As soon as anyone else communicates that they aren’t confident in their ability to perform a job, or they indicate they’re feeling too overwhelmed to take on one more thing, I tend to just do it myself. I’m not a good delegator. I definitely need some better coping mechanisms. Turning ‘ruin’ into ‘run’ is just one of many I might use!

    • I understand your comment all too well — as a Department head I’ve had to learn to delegate and it doesn’t come easily to me. But my team has proven they can handle it – it’s up to me to let them. This post has to do more with another’s lack of organization and follow-through always ending up being my issue to pull together, in the 11th hour, bases loaded … etc. I can do it, but I resent it.

      Cheers! MJ

  7. I love the ” can do” attitude!

    • It takes effort that I don’t always have but one day I realized the only difference between ruin and run was “i” and I was sold!

      🙂 MJ

  8. cooper

    Manage stress? Never heard of the concept….

  9. It seems like there’s always one of those in each department. It does make it harder on everyone else, and it’s hard to not resent it at the end of the day. I’m happy to be out of that world, now I’m the only slacker around the house. 🙂

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