Being thankful for doors that closed

When I look back at some of my career opportunities (and those that weren’t) I’ve learned to be grateful for closed doors.

Encouraging someone recently, I offered this, “You have to believe that you deserve a good life.  A happy, meaningful and beautiful life.  Every time the door closes is a test of faith; sometimes you won’t know till years later what was on the other side.  You just have to believe that He knows the plan for you and trust that it’s good.”   Tears filled my eyes as I said what I did and – truth be told – these words weren’t mine, someone gave me this message to share and I did.

We have all had times when the door closed — moments that, looking back, weren’t for you in the first place.  Dead-end jobs.  Bad people.  Relationships that suck the life out of you.

Like the faithful being led out of bondage, a shut door can be a metaphor for the closing of the Red Sea.  No more chains on us!

When this happens, yes sometimes I stare at the lock for a while. Other times I see things for what they are and give a prayer of gratitude for the people who rejected me, the superior who discounts me, the friend who slights me.  That’s when I dig my heels in and move forward anyways.  And I always find that, had I remained where I was, I would have missed where I am.

Every time He shuts a door, there is something better coming.  I’m sure of it.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11

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What closed doors are you grateful for?

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  1. Reblogged this on Stumbling into Grace and commented:

  2. So, so true. I tell people this too but in the moment it’s so hard to accept. When my last marriage fell apart I kept looking back. Now I’m in a marriage that doesn’t require so much work and constantly being on my toes. I would have been exhausted had I stayed in that one but at the time…I was in love and it was so painful. Working in HR I come across this a lot. I tell managers that there aren’t bad employees they are just not matched with the right job. Other doors do open but you have to be looking up to see them. Great post.

  3. Great post! Thank you!

  4. Diane Helminiak

    I remember when I lost my job a couple years ago and people would ask how things were. My reply was ALWAYS “I will be fine because God has a better place for me to work”. I am now in the same industry with a bit lesser pay but this is a great job and I know he wanted me to have more flexibility and less stress. Unfortunately, I felt bad for the people who didn’t get let go and stayed in a miserable job just to take a pay check home. Don’t try to pry those doors open, keep them shut. They are meant to move forward, not to look back.

  5. It IS difficult to realize that a closed door can be just an opening for something better/easier/more worthwhile. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Especially hard when you find yourself staring at the lock incredulously!! I have learned to pivot and move on, but it’s not always been easy. MJ

  6. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    A reminding and very true blog. March 2013 I was let go of a job I had for about 12 years. I was told they were doing away with my position. I was 60 years old, scared, mad,and hurt. With the Lords guidance HE put everything in place so I could retire early with my husband who is about 10 years older than I. What a wonderful life it has been for us sense then. So I am here to tell you don’t be afraid the Lord opens the right door when needed.

    • Thank you for the assurance that we shouldn’t be afraid and to trust that He will open the right door in time. So glad it worked out for you after your job loss!! MJ

  7. Thank you for sharing this. I too have found the doors that were closed weren’t really meant to be opened by me. There was a window someplace else. Everyone has experienced the fear, the anxiety and anger when the path we were happily or perhaps, stubbornly following suddenly reaches a dead end. Funny though, when you look back on your life, those roadblocks sure seem like life savers in a different light. Thanks so much for sharing.

    • I always laugh when I pull on a push door. Locked doors help remind me that paths aren’t always meant to be straight.

      Thank you for your insights and for weighing in! MJ

  8. Love this message Marilyn! 🙂

  9. Amen!! It sure can be hard at times when those doors close. But with time and distance (or growth), I am able to look back and see that I was steered to a better path. All of the romantic relationships I had before I met my husband (at 30 yrs. old) had to go by the wayside so that I would be available when our paths collided.

  10. The person who received this advice from you is so fortunate. I hope he or she was able to grab on to this idea to at least some degree.

    I’ve had such trouble myself understanding this concept in my life. Only in the very recent past have I begun to buy into it. And I still often find that my natural inclination is to hold tight to the hurt instead of looking ahead to what God has in store. It’s an effort, but so worth it when you finally get it.

    • I hope so as well 🙂

      I understand where you’re coming from ~ it’s human nature that for every 100 compliments we hold onto the one snarpy comment. I am not always the best at casting that crud aside, either, but when I look up and think about it, I know that I was meant to have a good and meaningful life, even when the road is bumpy, there are lessons there, too. Cheers! MJ

  11. Great post and so timely for me! I’ve had a few doors close in the last few weeks. It’s always bittersweet – sad but when it happens, it’s usually because it’s the right thing to happen. Thanks for reminding me I’m not alone.

  12. Great advice and encouragement.

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