Clan, Tribe, whatever, we need it

Thinking about a recent conversation with Hubbs, I’ve realized who my tribe is:  those whom I can speak openly with. You know the ones: the friends/colleagues/family members who do for you what you’d do for them: accept you, ask your opinion because they want to know, listen, stick up for you, check in on you and cheer loudest when you grow. Those ones.


There’s been a lot going on of late, Mom’s health is a little more stable but she has been hospitalized for several weeks and we’ve had some very close calls where we thought, “this is it.”  She came through that, thankfully, and now we’re starting to talk about next steps. She’s not strong enough to go home, at least not right now.  And that’s a tough reality to face. On a positive note, she’s bright and “with it” and knows what’s up: she’s still got a say and that’s comforting to me.

Little ones are adjusting to their Mom moving away. They’re with their Dad now, our boy, full time.   They’re adjusting but I know the whole household will have some challenges ahead.   We help where we can .. but still, this Nana’s heart is with them always.

First day of school and Daddy did her hair. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

First day of school and Daddy did her hair. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

Our nephew was seriously injured in a fall, he’s healing and will be OK, and we thank God he’s young and healthy.  It was the kind of accident that could have left him permanently injured or dead and just thinking about it makes us shudder.

Still, I look around, and while my tribe isn’t big, it’s good.  It’s cozy and healthy.  And when I’m with them – Hubbs, the boys, a few good friends, certain family members, and you, dear readers, I am reminded that the only answer most of us are looking for is the knowledge that we can live in our truth and eventually things will be just fine.

speak the truth

Who’s in your tribe?  Are you able to let your tribe in when you’re struggling? 

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14 thoughts on “Clan, Tribe, whatever, we need it

  1. Always good to get your updates MJ. They are always your kids, even when they are 35 and having babies of their own. I definitely have a tribe…i used to have most of my important relational eggs all in one basket,and learned the lesson that just like in finances, it’s good to diversify…so now I have those relationships in multiple areas of my life..(including a few like you I’ve interacted w/ via blogging) Anyway, we had another grandchild in the middle of the night..I am watching the grandson this morning until I can hand him off to the other grandmother, so I can go to work. (he likes to sit on my lap and listen to music on Youtube)

  2. Yes! My clan is small, and has gotten smaller as we’ve lost a few dear ones in recent years. But like you, I appreciate the ones in the circle! And like you, I count my blogging community as a part of that group. What would I do without each one?! So thankful! And happy that your group is well!

    I especially wish you guys well with your littles! I can’t imagine that adjustment for them, but I know you’ll help fill the void! ~ Sheila

    • I think small but mighty is a good description 🙂 And I really appreciate the kind words and support of my blogging pals.

      It is a lot for my boy to handle but I can report he – and they – are doing pretty well – off to see them today! ❤ MJ

  3. Phyllis S

    Beautiful grandchildren on their way to school for first day!

  4. Glad that your mom is improving, MJ. I wasn’t aware that your grandchildren’s mom was moving away. Looks like your son has everything well under control.
    Sounds like a scary situation for your nephew; happy that he wasn’t hurt worse.
    Brighter days ahead!

    • Their Mom’s bf moved and she wanted to take the kids, too, our boy said “over my dead body” — the summer wore on and she was determined to go so he offered, more than once, to have them both and keep them together. It’s quite an adjustment and I just hope it’s not an on again/off again situation, as they need stability more than anything else. Mom is stable and plans are moving forward for the next steps and my nephew came home from the hosp this week and “Stevie” the dog is his constant Canine Nurse .. he’s got a long recovery ahead and we are lucky he is young and healthy. Thank you for your kind thoughts of support, they mean a lot to me 🙂 MJ

  5. Tough times for your family lately MJ and I’m so sorry. I hope your Mom and nephew continue to improve and that your son and the grandchildren do well with the new circumstances. The kids are absolutely beautiful! And how lucky you are to be a close knit clan/tribe/family unit.

    • We’re doing ok – it’s just a lot all at once, but isn’t that always how it goes? 🙂

      Gonna see those sweet little punkins today – off to the movies with my grands 🙂 Thank you for your kind words, Dor. MJ

  6. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    My clan is doing pretty good right now. Our daughter has a few problems, but I have faith our Lord will bring her to where she needs to be. Your grandchildren are so cute. I know with all the love around them they will be fine. Glad your Mom is better and I am sure the clan will come together for her best.

    • Thank you for the reassurance, I think so, too — my Monkeys are doing ok, and we are very proud of our boy and how much he’s always done but especially now. He raised this little guy since he was 3 (the “real” Dad walked away .. when in truth the REAL Dad {our kid} walked in) and they have a very close bond. Little Miss is the apple of his eye and I pity the fool who ever hurts either one, they’ll have our bear of a boy in their way 🙂 I hope the Mom stays gone vs back & forth but I have no control over that .. tough situation.

      Mom is stable and we’re making plans for what’s next — and our nephew is recovering.

      When it rains, it pours, but still – there is always something to be grateful for — I’m thankful I have the ability to go see the kidlets today and love up on them, that my sisters are right there for Mom, and that my nephew is out of the hospital and expected to fully recover. Life is good!! MJ

  7. I like the “truth” quote. The kids are adorable. Glad to hear your nephew is recovering. I’ve been blessed to find out how caring and supportive my writers group peeps are. They are the ones with which confidences can be shared.

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