Just like that

Last weekend we drove through neighborhoods and saw some houses.  Having talked about down-sizing for months, we took the first step by scouting out areas and crossing some off our list.

Sunday, we toured one.

The story goes like this:  Realtor friend, best pals with Hubbs since 2nd grade, set up the showing.  We stood outside in the sunlight and talked through possibilities.

On our approach, we were greeted by a deep throated bark. A neighbor called out, “He’s {the owner} not here, and the old dog is inside, but he’s harmless.” So, with our friend, in we went. Stepping into the kitchen, our friend ahead of us, we heard this, “Well hello there, I thought you’d be in a cage or something.”  An ancient grey-faced Golden Retriever lay on the kitchen tile, squinting up at us, his tail thumping hopefully.  We melted. All three of us.  Speaking softly and moving slowly, we reassured him he had friends in us. He accepted a pet and went back to his nap. His age and physical limitations were obvious and my heart went out to him, the stress of dealing with all these strangers traipsing through his home.

The house is not new, it’s 80’s-centric, with lots of oak.

I love oak and so does Hubbs.

The kitchen faces east, and the morning sun streamed in across the tile, warming the fur of Golden boy. I smiled at his choice.

Looking up and down and all around we understood now the sheets on the furniture in the photos, and smiled at Golden boy who didn’t look capable of such a leap.  We saw hope in the gesture.

Walking through another person’s home is weird.  We found ourselves whispering.  I am not one to open closets and peek into shelves but when you’re considering a major purchase you have to push through that and stay objective.  I tried.

By now the men were in the basement, talking about foundations and egress windows and the age of the furnace.

I wandered through on my own, stopping to love on Golden boy, and taking in my thoughts.

Finding myself in the kitchen again I acknowledged what I hadn’t yet articulated: I could see myself living there.

I didn’t care that the stove was old or that the counters would need to be updated.

I could see myself standing that kitchen looking back over that long yard, mature trees swaying softly in the distance, sipping coffee and pondering.

I could picture the smallest bedroom as my reading nook & office with a bed for sissy when she visits.

I could see youngest boy and all his musical instruments and amps making a mess like he does here.

I could picture tousle-haired grand kids at the table eating breakfast and talking excitedly about our day. I could hear holiday gatherings.  I could feel home.

I think in life you either know or you don’t and sometimes the quickest path to finding what you want is to cross off what you don’t.

We made an offer, they countered, and we accepted.

Inspections are underway but .. it looks like we have (another) house!

I will miss this one, but I’m happy our big oak table will fit right in at the new/old house.


“Home isn’t a place, it’s a feeling”
― Cecelia Ahern, Love, Rosie



How about you? Do you instantly know – one way or another – your position on things?

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23 thoughts on “Just like that

  1. Oh my goodness. Congratulations. Yes. It’s a feeling, an “I feel at home feeling.”

  2. CONGRATULATIONS!! What fun and adventure!! What new material for your blog!! (LOL) We’re at the point of maybe thinking of downsizing in a few years…but Connie feels that we’ll still need a big house for the holiday’s…that girl dreams….our closest kid will be 1200 miles away. 😦

    Love your idea about a reading nook.


    • It is fun, and overwhelming, too. We have 4 level house currently, both work full-time, and I travel a fair bit. Too much to keep up with – the “new” house is smaller but a roomy ranch-style, which is what we both want at this point in our lives. We’ll jam in at the holidays and it will be just fine 🙂 MJ

  3. Congrats! *filled with envy* We spent last year looking. My hubs needs a basement that can support a wood working place. That means an exterior entrance. The house I fell in love with did not have that and it would have been difficult to install. We looked and looked and that feeling didn’t come again so we stopped. Maybe this year. When it’s meant to be…it will be. Good luck and I’m so happy it was so easy. Fingers crossed for inspections.

    • Understand; we had pretty specific wants, too, and this house met most of them. When you can cross those things off the list you can move forward pretty easily. Plus we knew we wanted to stay in the general area, close to grocery store, movie theater, Doctors, my office, etc. and there were 3 – count ’em – 3 houses for sale in that price range/area. This was the only ranch style and in good shape so we went for it. It needs some updates but nothing major – whoo hoo!! MJ

  4. whoot whoot! I’m excited for you!~

  5. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    Congratulations to you and your husband on your new home, MJ!!! Fun adventures ahead.

  6. Congrats!

  7. Congratulations MJ! What an amazing thing to find “home” where your heart can settle and recognize it so quickly. 🙂

    • Sometimes you just know; we both had a feeling before we saw it, but after we walked through, we gave each other “the look.” Hubbs and I are fairly similar in our wants/tastes/etc so that was easy. And we’re both decisive – if all the boxes can be checked, we can come to a decision pretty swiftly. I’m glad we communicate well; 🙂 MJ

  8. Clearly, this house fits you. If it didn’t, you wouldn’t feel so certain. Good for you for trusting your gut. I know you’ll enjoy making the updates and making it yours. Wishing you many happy years in your new place!

    • Exactly! We are both very excited. There’s lots to do between now & then, but I feel very comfy with our immediate decision! 🙂 MJ

  9. I love it! That’s just the way it should happen…easily, naturally, and it should feel like home. Do you have your current house on the market already? Can’t wait to see photos of the new place! Congratulations! ~ Sheila

    • Thank you; we will close on new house, do some cosmetic updates (carpet, paint etc) and clean this one out then move then list this. I am not living through showings – we’ve done that before and it’s miserable when you’re also working. + Hubbs’ office is at home. No can do. I think/hope it will sell quickly, the market has houses moving very swiftly and we will price it to sell 🙂 Front seat of the roller coaster, that’s me!! MJ

  10. oh how wonderful! congratulations on your new home, may you have many wonderful years there. I am totally in agreement with you… either do or you don’t, and you know immediately you walk through that door. I recall once taking a place on after just walking through the front door…I din’t need to see anything else, I just ‘felt’ the ambience on entry. The dog sounds like a love….I guess the owner didn’t let you keep him too.

    • You know, Hubbs has joked that the old dog comes with the house! 🙂 He is a fixture of the house, that is for sure. Thank you for your kind words. It is a feeling – and you either have it or you don’t. I had it with our current house, too. We’re very excited – lots to be done – and it’s a bit overwhelming. But when you can “see” yourself somewhere, that’s a very good sign.

      Good to hear from you again 🙂 MJ

  11. I’m so glad you found your new home so easily! The Golden would have done it for me–does he convey? He’ll miss his sunlit spot in the kitchen.

    • He’s still there and yes he helped us make the decision ~ poor old guy, all this commotion. I wonder how he will adapt to a move? MJ

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