Posts Tagged With: Confidence

Life, lies, trees and hell

Last night, wandering through the house, I found myself thinking about Mom.  Why?  I did something she taught me – and you’ve done it, too.  That moment when you head to a room and forget what you’re there after?  She calls those the “here-afters.”   I was in the basement before I realized what I wanted was 2 flights up.  Geez.  I sorted myself out and found what I was looking for and went on my way.


Life’s like that though, isn’t it?  We get busy zipping around, doing our thing and other things distract us from what’s at hand.


I’m attending a workshop soon and part of my pre-class “homework” includes thinking about answers to several thought-provoking questions ~ some were easy for me,  especially the question about passion.


What I’m passionate about always comes down to this: it’s what’s not negotiable. It’s what I could never, ever leave behind.  It’s how I behave and who I am whether anyone is around to know. I know, and that’s enough. It’s honing the traits and values that I’ve carried with me from middle school to middle age.  It’s all of that and what’s yet to come.


To that point, I saw this clip this morning and what he had to say resonated with me.

Have you ever had someone try to make you part of their lie?  Have you pulled back and found your own character in question?   There’s a lot of truth in him saying that we all lie – maybe not like that lady does — but we tell ourselves lies like these all the time: “I’m fine,” “It’s no big deal,” “I don’t care,” “I can’t,” or, worse yet, “I’m not worthy.”

But, to that end, I’m not helping you go to Hell, either.



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Share a Sunday

share sundaySaw this and laughed out loud.   🙂

What a fun weekend we’ve had ~ watching College Football with friends yesterday, we sampled a Chili cook-off and yummy snacks at our local American Legion Hall. We bought 50:50 tickets in support of cute young Marines who were there raising money for “Toys for Tots.” And, we even got up the courage to Karaoke!

When I took the microphone to sing a Patsy Cline favorite, I flashed-forward to my speaking engagement later this week. I realized then that if I can sing in front of 70 friends and strangers Lord knows I can talk to 400.

Here’s the song I chose; if you’re ever find yourself about to sing at a local Legion Hall, you’re well advised to pick a country or rock classic.  This song drew dancers to the floor and some chair singers, too.

Happy Sunday, peeps! When’s the last time you pushed yourself to try something new?



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Realizations and ropes

So there I was last week – attending a meeting with colleagues and others, many with impressive titles and backgrounds, certainly more impressive than yours truly.

Knowing the business but still not connecting the dots, I puzzled at attending said meeting.

But as I listened and took notes, I found myself leaning in, participating and nodding in agreement.

I watched another leaning away, slipping out and shaking his head.

At the last minute the presentation he planned to give was punted to me – the one I’d written and researched.

It was then that I saw it.

Bluster and blather will only carry you so far ~ and sometimes the one needed at the table is the one who knows the fluff from the floor.

“A dame that knows the ropes isn’t likely to get tied up.”
― Mae West

Yes! In the moment I felt like this Tigress.  Image from

Yes! In the moment I felt like this Tigress. Image from

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? How did you handle it?


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For sure

Fifteen years ago a little dream started… a dream of living in four seasons again, being close to family and having a dog.

Fourteen years ago me & the Hubbs endured 28 realtor showings in 30 days, sold our house, (tried to) quit our jobs, packed up the boys and moved cross-country to come “home” to Michigan.

our former home in Katy, Texas (an Emjayandthem (C) photo)

our former home in Katy, Texas (an Emjayandthem (C) photo)

I loved that house, and we cried as we drove away, not for the place, but because we brought our baby home and created our family in that little brick house built just for us.

For the rest of the story, read When you know for sure.

When’s the last time you knew something for sure?

2000: One starting High School and the other starting grade one.

2000: One in High School and the other in grade one.. in Michigan.  An Emjayandthem (C) photo


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Fifty percent

One of my favorite commercials running right now features this guy (see below).

I know of no woman with this kind of confidence; in my experience, we’d be so busy wrapping, slathering, buffing and hiding … we’d likely miss the outing entirely.

This summer maybe I’ll get a “whatever” flag and put it in my drink, too!

Happy Friday, peeps.

“Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.”  – Sophia Loren

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What Lingered in Linden

So a road trip yesterday had me stopping for coffee and a bite to eat at the Linden Hotel in S.E. Michigan.

This is an old town, the hotel was established in 1840 and a sign on the front stoop says so.

Known for their home-made goodies and excellent lunches, we were told this would be a good place to stop after a meeting earlier that day.

But what we didn’t know is that the hotel is supposedly haunted.

I noticed something was up right away; having turned my (android) phone off while in meetings, I expected a full charge when I powered it back up.  It was .. and then it wasn’t.  Saying nothing, I watched as two main screen images superimposed themselves over each other.  I also noticed I wasn’t getting my work emails and the time display was stuck on one time.

Making general conversation with the waitress, my colleagues asked about the hotel’s history.  Smiling, she said, “oh, would you like to see our ghost book?”

Immediately one said “no, not me, I’m scared of that stuff.” She replied, “oh you’ll be fine” and stepped away to retrieve a binder filled with photos and anecdotes from previous visitors.

Intrigued, we asked her to tell us more.

“Well, I’ve worked here for many years and often come in to find the silverware upside down or unwrapped.  We’ve had bartenders witness bottles fly off the bar and cooks hear someone call their name.  The most activity is in the upstairs ladies bathroom and in the mens room on this floor.  There’s a little girl here, she died in a fire, she plays upstairs.  The others we aren’t so sure about.”

My colleagues smiled and went back to their food and I looked at my phone again. Nothing. The time was frozen at the time we entered the building: 2:02 pm and the battery was almost dead.

One photo in the book caught us all by surprise, especially when she told us the story behind it.

Apparently a group of local folks who do Civil War reenactments did so on the upper floor of the hotel while it was under renovation.  See the soldier by the chair?  Folks who participated noticed him after the images were developed; no one knows who he is, as every other member was accounted for.

Weird hey?

While the experience was unusual, I can tell you I wasn’t scared. I also don’t mind telling you that  there was no part of me that was going upstairs to the ladies’ room: I trust my intuition!  I had to giggle when my colleagues bade a hasty retreat after they were “visited” by yellow lights in the mens’ room.  Suggestion or real?

I am not sure what to think about all this but I do know this: we were a full 70 miles west of there before my phone returned to normal, the time reset and 67 new emails showed up.

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What do you think?  Do you believe in ghosts? Have you ever visited someplace haunted? Were you visited by something while you were there?

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Like I belonged there

Settling into my seat today, I took a deep breath and opened the packet of briefings for today’s meeting.

Settled into the 19th floor of a prestigious law firm next to the State Capitol, I took a moment and looked around the room in wonder.

Wonder at how I – a prairie farm kid – got here.

Wonder at how I went from managing policy just three weeks ago to having a seat at the table affecting it.

There were moments of trepidation, silent sweats, and that feeling of oh-my-God-I-am-not-so-sure-about-this.

And then it happened:  Listening to the commentaries, I found myself nodding in agreement, in understanding. I got past my shyness and started asking questions. My questions were well received, and the best part?  The best part was my contribution was welcomed.  I belonged there.


“Act like you belong there, not just like you wanna be there.” -the Hubbs.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop.”  ~Usman B. Asif

the view tonight :)

smiling at my view tonight 🙂

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I am

I heard some powerful words last night that I just had to share with you:

“Whatever follows ‘I am’ is going to come looking for you.” – Joel Osteen

Think about that, think about the words you tell yourself:

I am … tired.

I am … lonely.

I am … frustrated.

I am … unhappy with my body.

Now change those words:

I am excited about my future.

I am worthy of love.

I am capable.

I am beautiful.


Remember … your life is how you see it.  What do you see?

I see confidence!

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A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly.  You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.  ~Roald Dahl

Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same.  ~Francesca Reigler

So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key.  ~The Eagles, “Already Gone”

The only people who find what they are looking for in life are the fault finders.  ~Foster’s Law

Every thought is a seed.  If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious.  ~Bill Meyer

No life is so hard that you can’t make it easier by the way you take it.  ~Ellen Glasgow

Misery is a communicable disease.  ~Martha Graham

A loving person lives in a loving world.  A hostile person lives in a hostile world; everyone you meet is your mirror.  ~Ken Keyes, Jr.

Some days there won’t be a song in your heart.  Sing anyway.  ~Emory Austin

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On worrying

   “What worries you .. masters you.” – Anonymous

Stevie the farm dog in a Bovine stare-down; an emjayandthem photo

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Ever find yourself with something to say and later realize that what you meant is not quite how you delivered it? Oh crap. I have done this and sometimes with great embarassment.

The same applies to writing.  At work, I’ve learned to write important emails and save them as a draft; coming back later to re-read what I’ve drafted helps me to edit and clarify my commentary.  Usually, I edit out 3/4 of what was written and often, I start over.

The headlines below were forwarded to me via email so I can’t credit the author .. but I would if I knew who it was.

Regardless, while many made me chuckle, most cause me to ponder the importance of pausing – saving – and reviewing once more before hitting the “publish” or “send” buttons.

Actual (poorly-written) Headlines

  • Something Went Wrong in Jet Crash, Expert Says
  • Panda Mating Fails; Veterinarian Takes Over
  • Include Your Children when Baking Cookies
  • Plane Too Close to Ground, Crash Probe Told
  • Stolen Painting Found by Tree
  • Two Sisters Reunited After 18 Years at Checkout Counter
  • War Dims Hope for Peace
  • If Strike Isn’t Settled Quickly, It May Last a While
  • Cold Wave Linked to Temperatures
  • Red Tape Holds Up New Bridges
  • Kids Make Nutritious Snacks
  • Hospitals are Sued by 7 Foot Doctors
  • Man Struck By Lightning Faces Battery Charge

How about you? Do you find yourself carefully editing your words?

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