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Love stories

Mom’s settling into the nursing home and my sisters have started the long haul of cleaning out the house.  Sorting, stacking, settling, packing, throwing, reading, crying.  60+ years of living in the home Mom shared with Dad, the same home he grew up in.

I’m not there, I’m thousands of miles away, and the guilt is palpable.  But, so is reality.  I could stop what I’m doing and take a week off and dig in too, and guess what, a week is not enough. They work too, so they’re fitting this in as they can.  One sister gets it, the other grumbles, and I understand and appreciate both.  Again, the guilt …

There are the books, the pots, the pans, the dishes, the china, the crystal, the photographs, the note pads, the junk drawer, the sock drawer, the paper drawer, the plastic drawer.  The Christmas ornaments, the treasures, the junk, the furniture, the appliances, the you-name-its. No, a week would hardly be enough.

But, as my sissy has said more than once, the journey has brought moments of awe – a trunk we never knew about, tucked away in a spot we’d long forgotten, filled with our baby outfits – in pristine condition.  Shorts, caps and vests for my brothers, yellow and peach dresses for my sisters, and this frothy pink confection for me:

baby MJ in this pink dress. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

baby MJ in the pink dress. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

I don’t own pink, haven’t in years.  But seeing this photo again let’s me see myself through their eyes.

They also found letters – from Dad to Mom. She had been away visiting a sister and he missed her is all, and “Scout” the dog wasn’t much of a companion.  He used words like “my darling,” words I don’t remember hearing him say.   I expect he was about this age, or younger, when he wrote to her.  And the love and longing in his words transcends time and miles for all of us.

Dad riding

Dad wrangling a horse in spring. An Emjayandthem (C) photo.

So when I think of them, I think of their date nights, his taking her hand on the dance floor, holding the door and her giggle as she stepped through.  I think about the farmer and the teacher who met on a blind date, fell in love, and built a life and family together.

Mom and Dad with one of their winning horses - and a date night. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

Mom and Dad with one of their winning horses – and a date night. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

 

Mom & Dad dancing (and singing) at our wedding

Mom & Dad dancing (and singing) at our wedding, an Emjayandthem(C) photo

Dad’s been gone 11 years; Mom’s carried on and accepted this new phase in her life.  There were many great times, and some that weren’t.  But their love stories – those are the keepsakes that remain with me.

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“As long as you remember the person who loved you, and whom you still love, then you’re making love endure.”  ― Guillaume Musso 

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Have you been far, far away as major life changes took place?  What keepsakes are worth keeping?

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Categories: Attitude, Beauty, Faith, Family, Grief, Growth, Love, Men, Personal, Relationships, Romance, Seasons, Thoughts | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 25 Comments

Random 5 Friday ~ Mother’s Day

It’s Friday! Time for 5 Random thoughts this Mother’s Day weekend.

1. “A mom reads you like a book, and wherever she goes, people read you like a glowing book review.” ~Robert Brault.  One year ago today I was on a plane to see her.  Oh what a grand time we had!   This year, I sent her a huge floral arrangement because we will see each other soon but still …  I miss her. ❤

One of my favorite pictures of Mom & me... having a Killian's in Branson, MO

One of my favorite pictures of Mom & me… having a Killian’s in Branson, MO. An Emjayandthem(C) photo

2.  Mom taught me a lot, but in spite of her efforts, there were some lessons that didn’t stick: I can’t sew, I hate gardening and I never mastered her bread recipe.   Here are the ones that did: sharing a meal lovingly prepared, the joy in make-believe play on stormy days, that books can take you anywhere and to laugh at myself. (Remember her story of “I’m Gay?”)

Mom loves music and always has the radio playing in her country kitchen, and I do the same.  She taught me the importance of date nights, of a dab of perfume and a swirly skirt and jewelry that makes you feel like a girl. Mom loved me enough to let me go yet never failed to rally and cheer, “You can do it, kid!”

3.   When I think about how much I love my boys, I understand how much she loves me.  And I think that when you’ve been loved .. you can love.

Me & my Hooligans at my U.S. Citizenship party.  An Emjayandthem(C) photo

Me & my Hooligans at my U.S. Citizenship party.
An Emjayandthem(C) photo

4.  Some of my best times with Mom have been when it’s just the two of us; we’re up late, and the house is quiet and the conversation flows.  She’s told me things about herself and her life’s adventures that none of the other kids know. Someday I might tell them, or, maybe not.  Maybe in those moments we were just two really good friends hanging out – laughing, crying, looking back, being grateful.   Those moments are sacred to me.

Nameless moments

5. Tomorrow, our boys are taking us out for supper.   We’ll go to our favorite Tex-Mex restaurant, take over a big table and enjoy someone else’s cooking.  We’re going on Saturday to skip the Sunday crowds; they’re logical like that.   There’s the promise of homemade cards and lots and lots of laughter.  I will love it and am looking forward to it.  Sunday I’ll be in my kitchen again – cooking, singing, and … on the phone with Mom.

motherhood

In everything I’ve ever accomplished and all that I’ve ever experienced, I’ve had one tiny but mighty powerhouse behind me: my Mother.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms! ❤

Question:  When you think of your Mom, what three words could describe her best?

Categories: Attitude, Beauty, Confidence at any age, Family, Holidays, Home, Humor, Life, Mom, Personal | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 21 Comments

Random Five Friday – Lessons

It’s Friday. It’s Random. Let’s go!

1. I’m off work today for the 4th time this month. One word?  Ahh.  That extra day smushed up to the weekend has allowed me time to breathe, relax and lean in.   One extra day and I’m rested and smiling more.  Lesson learned?  Listening to yourself is as important as listening to everyone else. Maybe more.

2.  Back in March, a conversation with a customer began by her shouting at me.  Since then, I’ve worked with multiple teams to fulfill her request (to get my company’s services at her new home) and we spoke often as I kept her updated on the construction progress. This week she got the news she’d waited to hear – a day later I received a “thank you” card in the mail. From her. The shouter.  Lesson reinforced?  Treat others the way you want to be treated and things usually work out in the end.

3. Four years ago I was in another job and working hard on a corporate project. The project lead joined us for dinner one night and I took the opportunity to get to know her better.  She is a woman my (male) boss had dismissed and labeled as cold. I found the opposite to be true.  Three years ago she became the Department head; two years ago I made it to the fourth of four interviews for the position I hold today. My interviewer?  That gal.  Tough, smart and thorough, she didn’t loft any softballs, but I still nailed it.  Lesson there?  Competence is great but when you invite people in that’s where the bridges are built.

4. Hubbs is off today, too.  Like me, he’s putzing around, not paying attention to his  smart phone, sipping coffee and enjoying a lack of schedule. He has a few errands to do, as do I, but later,  we’ll step out for dinner.   We’ll laugh, we’ll listen, and we’ll enjoy our time together.  Lesson:  Make time for romance and romance will make time for you.

5. Five years ago today our own Royal princess was born!  She’ll be with her Daddy and brother tonight and tomorrow a bunch of us will gather for cake and presents and bowling.  She’s an impish, lovable and smart little one and we’re so glad she’s ours.   Lesson:  Don’t blink.

 

What’s your Friday have in store?

 

Categories: Attitude, Confidence at any age, Faith, Family, Friendship, Growth, Home, Life, Life Lessons, Love, Men, Personal, Relationships, Thoughts, Uncategorized, Women, Work | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

Summer Snapshots

If you captured your summer in snapshots what would it look like?

Here are a few from my summer:

1. My “Hey Now!” Salsa …by the trough.

photo from healt-fitness.au  (This has never lasted long enough for me to capture it on camera)

photo from healt-fitness.au (This has never lasted long enough for me to capture it on camera)

2.  Rainy day naps.

google.images.com

google.images.com

3.  Date nights on patios.

Kitten heels and swirly skirts. google images.com

Kitten heels and swirly skirts. google images.com

4. Time out with wee ones.

Heading to the Zoo with my MJ.  An Emjayandthem (C) photo

Heading to the Zoo with my MJ. An Emjayandthem (C) photo

5. Road trips with stops in new-to-me places.

Deck view from Crosswinds restaurant in Whitehall, MI ... ahh

Deck view from Crosswinds restaurant in Whitehall, MI … ahh

6.  Fresh sweet cherries by the handful.

photo courtesy of Robinette's Apple Haus

photo courtesy of Robinette’s Apple Haus

7.  And laughter.

ha ha!  Google.images.com

ha ha! Google.images.com

What snapshots represent your summer?  

 

Categories: Attitude, Faith, Family, Fun, Growth, Home, Joy, Life, Random, Seasons | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

50%

“Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.” ~Sophia Loren.

Date Night’s here again!  I’ve written often on the significance of date night and how they affect what’s in my relationship basket.

Next month, Hubbs and I celebrate 20 years of marriage. We’ve had our ups and we’ve had our downs.  We’ve encountered smooth sailing and we’ve endured rough seas, too.

But, through it all, date nights have always been the buoy we swim to against the undertow of daily living.

Whatever you’ve got – I say … work it!  Boom chicka mow mow!  

Categories: Attitude, Beauty, Friendship, Fun, Love, Men, Opinion, Personal, Relationships, Romance | Tags: , , , , , , | 41 Comments

It’s Friday night, baby …

… Get ready, set .. go.

It’s date night :). Whee ….

Hope you’re having fun on a Friday night, too!

Categories: Attitude, Fun, Joy, Love, Personal, Relationships, Traditions, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , , , | 9 Comments

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