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Random 5 – Christmas Vacation awaits

It’s almost here! Christmas vacation – so close I can taste it but don’t dare spend time thinking about it for I know I’ll be lost in dreamland if I do.

Soon we’ll step away ~ the ache in my shoulders serves as constant reminder of the need for some down time.

Our boys and grands and daughter in law and girlfriend will be here Friday night – we’ll nosh on appetizers and home-made treats, play games and tell stories. We’ll pop Christmas crackers and open presents and for just a few hours my heart will feel like it could burst.

We downsized this year in more ways than one:  Yes a smaller house but now there’s smaller everything – Christmas Eve will be just Hubbs and me, youngest boy and his girl – a whole new experience yet cozy and I hope, delightful.  Christmas Day winds down to just us 2.  What a change – no more bed-head grands tumbling out wide-eyed and bushy tailed.  They will be back at some point but there’s other family to see and that’s OK, too.  Hubbs and I will linger over brunch and later watch a movie, we may doze in our chairs, who knows.

Just the topic of Christmas vacation elicits so many conversations between us; for growing up in two different countries we share many similar memories:  Late nights at Aunts/Uncles,  sledding with cousins, and dinner at Grandma’s  on Christmas day (1pm sharp!).  Then “lunch” at 4:00 with skating-sledding-sliding-snowmobiling- all that snow, to follow.  Days later – time off to enjoy our new things, figure out board games or learn new skills – wood burning, pottery sculpting or jewelry making kits – those were all the rage in the 70s even if our finished results were less than spectacular!

Random 5 – after a rambling – ready?

  • Assorted chocolates.  Remember being a kid and someone would bring a box of chocolates to the family party?  Sometimes the treats were good but often times not.   Hey what’s this? (( big bite )) Ewww — orange marmelade swirl! Gag, retch, blah. Or how about hey what’s this one? It looks promising, like maybe there are nuts and caramel inside …. Nope, foiled again.  Strawberry cream delight!  Glach!  What is this? Is this mayonnaise?  Toothpaste?    Flash forward 45 years ~ I was gifted a gourmet box of chocolates this week.  Where are they?  In the office lunchroom. Nope,  after all those years, I do believe “you never know what you’re gonna get.”  My office mates are happy and I’ll take a pass, thanks!
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  • Yesterday I found myself awake in the middle of the night – too many things racing in my head. At 4:00 a.m. I got up and made a list, thinking that would help.  Wrong. At 4:30 a.m. I started the coffee and showered, and was at the office by 6:00.  Arriving in the dark I laughed out loud because 1) I had my security code with me but 2) not the outside door badge.  Sipping my coffee I decided to give the outer door a try – voila it opened.  Sometimes what made perfect sense at 4:00 a.m. doesn’t translate so well later.


  • Last minute Larry’s.  This is a phrase I’ve coined for the co-workers who’ve had the same project or looming deadline as I have – we’ve had it for weeks but they always arrive skidding to the finish line expecting me and others to save them. Nope.  Out-of-office is going on and your boat is yours to save.   How’s that for Christmas spirit? Ha!
Amen said the choir!

Amen said the choir!

  • Leisurely reading – I’ve almost forgotten what that feels like.  Yes I’m going plant my face in a book and not come out until the coffee’s gone. I hope it’s howling, snowing and blowing all the while.  I hope while I’m tucked in there, sipping coffee and reading, relaxing and enjoying.   I hope. I hope. I hope.


  • Pauses.  It’s important to pause.  Pause to give thanks, pause to savor Christmas memories in the making. Pause to listen to little ones.  Pause to hug the big ones. Pause for kitchen kisses.  Pause in traffic to let someone in.  Pause to shut the door, breathe, and turn it all off.  Pause to allow for wonder.  Pause to know good news is soon to come.


Merry Christmas to all! 


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Navigating perpetual rats

I knew it was coming, and I’m not thrilled about it.  An industry gathering occurs later today, and the rat will be there.

warren t rat american tail

I’d sit at the opposite end of the table, but the table’s not going to be big enough.

I’d find another part of the room to mingle in, but the group setting will be somewhat small.

So I’ll do what I always do – smile and get through it.  And when he blathers on about himself and his life and his other favorite topic, him, I’ll silently think about how glorious the past two months have been since he left.  And when someone catches a whimsical look on my face they may suspect I’m day-dreaming but really I’ll be thinking this:

hate you

And with that, I’m off.  Prayers accepted!

Question: Have you ever jettisoned a rat from your life only to have them re-appear?  How did you deal with it? Please share!




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Random 5 .. Thursday – Spring, Alternative medicine, Narcissists and Everyday people

It’s Thursday and it’s Random.  Why today and not tomorrow? Because I am off tomorrow – whoop! Here are my 5 random thoughts this week:

1. 30 degree temperature swing from last Saturday to Tuesday.  Sunshine all around.  Smiles all around.  Neighbors coming out of houses, folks chatting at the mailboxes – yes – Spring is in the air.  Hallelujah!



2. Tried something new this week: Acupuncture!  Years ago I was injured in a car accident and I still have pain in my neck where I was hurt. And, when stressed, I tend to clench my teeth.  I’ve been stressed, so my neck and jaw have been aching and pain relievers don’t even touch it.  Does this work? Not sure.  How’d it feel?  Like someone was sticking me with needles!  🙂 Truth be told, some points I didn’t feel, others burned and stung (i.e. in the jaw area- d’oh) and, after all pins were in I relaxed.  Having to lie still might have been part of that, not something I’m used to doing.  That night I felt drained and slept very deeply.  Will I go back? Yes, a couple of times at least.  The jury’s still out on this one.


That needle in the right thumb hurt like crazy; on the left? not at all. I write and mouse right-handed 🙂 Photo from

3. I took tomorrow off thinking I might try to do something productive around here.  Hubbs blessed me with this last night, “Why do you put so much pressure on yourself to always get things done?  Take a day off and enjoy it – sleep in- or not – and if you accomplish nothing, who cares? I don’t.”  I sure do love my #1 supporter and predict my face will be into my books! 🙂

I get this so much!

I get this so much!

4. I work with a narcissist.  It took me the longest time to understand just exactly what this is. If you’ve not experienced it, be thankful.  Here are a few traits that I’ve witnessed: (a) believes he or she is special and entitled to special privileges (translate: not for you), (b) requires copious amounts of admiration and will get it any way he/she can, (c) will exploit anyone – will step on anybody to meet his/her needs (translate: the bus will back over you many times), (d) has no issues lying or stretching the truth, especially if the new version benefits him or her, (e) lack of empathy for anyone but themselves – example: if they suffer a loss, the world will know.  If you do, meh.  (f) reverse envy – assumes everyone wants to be him/her.   Over the years I have learned how to manage my interactions with this person but doing so has come with a price.  See #2 and #3.

Amen said the choir!

5.  Despite our differences, I do try to come at all relationships with this thought:  we are all people. We all have something to contribute.  We are all everyday people.


How about you?  Would you ever try acupuncture or another alternative treatment?  Do you feel the need to “work” on your day off?  Have you any Narcissists in your life?  What do you learn from the most difficult personalities around you?  Are you grooving to Sly now? 🙂

Happy Thursday, peeps.

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Crows and Eagles

I work with someone who is toxic and negative; it’s hard to take.

Most days, I manage to not let the behavior and snarkiness get me down but there are just as many moments when I feel myself getting overwhelmed. It’s in those times that I feel the negativity seeping in and my joy slipping away.  And I don’t like it. Don’t like it one bit.

And then, I read this quote and laughed out loud. And as I read it again, I knew you had to see it too. 

Because, as he says,  we all know someone like this.

Remember — Crows can’t hang with eagles. The eagle has pests, one of which is the crow. He’s always squawking, always causing the eagle trouble. The truth is we all have a few crows in our life. When the eagle takes off, often a crow will come up right behind & start to pester, aggravate & annoy. You are an eagle, made in the image of God. Turkeys, chickens & crows cannot live at the altitude for which you were designed to soar. Be an eagle … rise up & above and leave them behind.” ~Joel Osteen

I wish you a happy & peck-free day!

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Do you know someone like this? Are you able to soar above? 


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How to pray for someone you can’t stand

I’ve been working on this post for a while now. Twice I’ve written it and twice it’s disappeared.  I suppose it wasn’t ready for prime time just yet.

I know the title is a grabber, but I haven’t been able to wordsmith it any softer than that.

I cringe at the title and I’m the one who wrote it!

But yesterday I found myself thinking {again} about someone I can’t stand to be around. To know. To have any association with.

I have tried. For years. To no avail.

What is it, you ask?  Well, it’s a mix of many things and there’s a list as long as my arm.

At first, I thought things would be better off if I just prayed for them. I thought it would help me if I asked for mercies on their behalf. I thought and I thought and I thought … wrong.

Turns out, whenever I tried to pray for them, I just got madder.

Ornery. Downright unreasonable.


My heart wasn’t in it.  My heart just couldn’t get past the betrayals, the hurts, and that list … as long as my arm.

So, in desperation, I tried something new: I prayed that He might change them.

You can guess how that turned out.

Finally, I started to wonder if this person might be in my path for a reason.  And apparently I am supposed to learn something from them even if, for the life of me,  I don’t know what that is!

which one is it?

which one is it?

And then, after another restless night’s sleep, came clarity:  Trust in Me.

Huh, who’d have thought that the one needing prayer the most .. was the one saying them!

When Peter asked Jesus how many times we must forgive someone who has sinned against us, he was thinking that maybe seven times was enough. Jesus answered him, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times” (Matt. 18:22).

Tell me, how do you cope with hurtful people in your life?

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on Grizzlies

Yesterday, I enjoyed a beautiful country drive on my way to a customer meeting.  The person I met with was Grizzly Bear-sized & intimidating.

Gruff & difficult, he talked over me and had plenty to say.

I listened, kept my cool and stuck to the facts.

By the time I left, he apologized for being “so hard on me” and even thanked me for my time & assistance.

Dad was a Rural Municipality Rep. for thirty-some years and, in that capacity, he taught me 4 key things to remember when you encounter folks like this one:

1) smile,

2) keep your cool,

3) know your stuff &

4) let ’em talk themselves out.

People … they just want to be heard.

just listen

How about you?  Ever encountered a Grizzly bear (in a suit)?  How did you handle it?

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