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July Random 5 – Aging apps, Shirley MacLaine and self-care

It’s Sunday, mid-July, and here we are cruising down hill towards August.   Time for 5 Rapid Fire Randoms from my world.  Ready? Set – Go!

1   Aging apps – friends on Facebook are posting results of an app that ages you by 40 years.  Here’s one to try- ha!

Dog days of Summer –  Our West MI Summer took it’s sweet time arriving.  Our first 80F day was June 20th.   But now that we’re into July – with more than 3 weeks of warm weather behind us – folks are already CRABBING about it.  I was doing fine until that sweltering sweaty muggy stuff landed last week ~ the hot, humid, dank weather that steals your breath away at 6am.   The humidity so high that you sweat AFTER a shower.   Our local AM radio host cheerfully announced, “The heat index – with the humidity – is already over 90F.”     I turned up the fan and suppressed my crabbiness.3 Grand Dames – I read a recent interview with actress Shirley MacLaine.  Always liked her.  Classy, smart, sassy … takes no prisoners.  This quote resonated with me:

“I have what I consider just a perfect life … I eat what I want, I sleep when I want.  Not that much bothers me. I think attitudes are a choice.  Anger is a choice, peace is a choice, sarcasm – which is what I’m good at – is a choice.” ~ Shirley MacLaine

I wanna be Shirley MacLaine when I grow up!

the incomparable Shirley MacLaine

4 Stopping when necessary – As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten better at stopping what doesn’t work for me.   Try something new but don’t like it?  Don’t keep doing it.  Order a new food that disappoints?  Set it aside.   The same goes for books – I LOVE to read, as in l-o-v-e to read.  Summer = reading for me.   But just recently I started a book with characters so awful – I had to stop.  The female character allowed herself to be manipulated by a narcissistic and cruel man, a man who enjoyed  the “game,” playing with her emotions and physical safety like a cat with a mouse.    I could see where the story was going after reading just a few chapters. Yes, I knew she’d probably become her own kind of hero but I just couldn’t sit through the abuse.

So I stopped reading it.

I didn’t give it away, I didn’t turn in for re-sale or donate it.

I threw it out.

You might be empathic if …

5  Heading to a corporate conference this week ~  practicing self-care now – there – and thereafter!

  1. Ever stopped doing what didn’t work for you? 
  2. Does Shirley’s quote resonate with you as well?  Why?
  3. How do you practice self-care? 

 

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Random 5 Friday – New Years, Strangers, Queen and the King

Hey! It’s Friday! It’s time for 5 random things from my world.  Ready? Set?  Go!

1  I’m still getting used to writing 2016.  I can’t seem to do it, I’ve written 15 and 17 but 16 throws me off.  What gives?

2016

all shiny and new but I just can’t seem to get used to you!

2 I don’t know about you but that first work week of the year kicks butt.  I did nothing more than “normal stuff,” but every night found me dozing in my chair before 9pm.

sleeping-dog

If only I were that tall …

3  Facebook: I have my account set so that only friends of friends can request me as a friend (say that 3 times).  Still – the other day I received a weird message from some guy in Florida who I don’t know asking me to connect with him and telling me his daughter (!) would really like me as a Step-Mom.    I didn’t respond but it drove home the point once again, “You just can’t make this stuff up.”

Facebook-thumbs-down

4  True.  Every time.

bohemian rhapsody

 

5  Today would have been Elvis Presley’s 81st birthday. I’d still be swooning and singing along.  *Sigh

Hello, Handsome! google.images.com

Hello, Handsome! google.images.com

 

 

Happy Friday! We made it – what’s on tap for the weekend, my friends?

 

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Wednesdays and Joy

It’s Wednesday!  Storm Juno pummeled the East coast and derailed our meeting plans.  No worries, I’m hosting a WebEx instead.  Cancelled flights and airline change fees but no shuffling, driving or situating for me.  Probably should have done this in the first place.  🙂

image from google.images.com

You know what day it is! Google.images.com

Totally off-topic, I have a question for you: if you unfriend someone on Facebook (TM) are they de-faced?  HA HA HA.

Have a great day, peeps!

“Happiness is part of who we are. Joy is the feeling” ― Tony DeLiso

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On being loved and cared for

Here’s the thing about Facebook: you can re-connect with people who once upon a time were your schoolmates, pals, neighbors or cousins.  You can also connect with new ones.  This story is about the new ones.

Hubb’s Aunt kept telling me, “You should connect with Jerry, that’s me and your late-mother-in-law’s cousin. He writes daily posts that are so uplifting and hilarious. You would really enjoy him, Marilyn.”

And so I did.

And I found myself looking forward to his daily words celebrating sunshine and lollipops and looking for the good in every sunrise.  Of being thankful. Of praising our Creator.

And then he got sick.

And as a man I’ve never met recovers in a hospital bed a whole group of us rallied around him.

Posts appear on his “wall” about someone taking time to enjoy coffee on their deck that morning.

About reveling in the glory of a morning songbird’s trill.

Posts about finding sunshine and lollipops in unlikely places.

Posts about being thankful.  Posts of prayer – for him and his family.

Posts that he’s now able to read from his hospital bed when he’s allowed to peruse his Kindle.

And in his own way, that community he created, rallied together like a virtual church pot-luck.

Connections.

That’s what being loved and cared for is all about, isn’t it?

“You and I are being guided, of this I’m certain. I no longer doubt that the Universe is constantly looking for ways to communicate with us and lovingly guide us to our highest good, our purpose, and our happiness. But we must pay attention – we must be open to listen with our hearts and to trust the synchronicities, chance encounters, songs on the radio, and random thoughts that gently cross our paths, knowing with bold assurance that we are always being loved and cared for. If you pay attention, you will soon come to realize that there’s a loving intelligence that seeks your highest good and happiness. Listen. Listen and trust that you are being guided. Listen as if the Universe itself were about to reveal the most wonderful secret; because it is.” – Frankie Perez

thankful morning

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Xnay the Fangage

I don’t know how many of you are also Facebook users but there’s a feature where another “friend” can “tag” you in a picture they’ve uploaded.

Most times, pictures are decent and moments captured are treasured.  Sometimes I even look like myself.  Other times, I’m caught open-mouthed, mid-sentence, looking rabid and ridiculous.

Then I saw this and thought, well, there it is.

oh how true it is

oh how true it is

Many of us have experienced passive-aggressive people and sometimes it can take a while to recognize it.  So, after one “friend” continued to upload unflattering pictures of me, I came to realize that she was not my friend.

And I may have giggled through my fangs when I clicked on the “unfriend” button.

“Stop inviting people who don’t celebrate you to your party! It’s YOUR life – you have the right to be exclusive.”
Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

How about you?  Have you ever “unfriended” someone?  Do tell!

related: What are you really saying?

 

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Something to look forward to

I am not sure when it happened, but there’s been a shift again.  This morning, I feel it more than ever.

Yes it has something to do with turning 50 in a couple of days. But, that’s not all of it.

The shift has to do with de-junkifying my life.

Taking a hard look at who’s in it, and who’s not. Thinking about what I’m doing, how I’m spending my days and who I’m spending them with.

Removing the naysayers, peeling away the negative Nancy’s and resisting the urge to fill up the friendship cupboard with more of the same.

It started with Facebook, with a few relatives who tend to make snarpy comments and/or comment on my commenting.  Whatever.  I started out meekly, like a playground survivor, quietly hiding them from my posts and page. Today I took control and hit the “unfriend” button.

I can’t tell you how liberating that feels.

I used my own logic:  Friends don’t act like this. Not anyone I want to be friends with anyways.

Deleted – done – gone — ahhh.

It’s happened in our personal life, too.

I’ve said no to things I don’t want to do. I’ve stopped doing for everyone.

I’ve.  Just. Stopped.

It’s not about getting older and being tired and losing interest. It’s about getting older and realizing I am interested and interesting and that I don’t  have to do it all to be loved.

I don’t have to justify who I am or wonder if someone likes me for me and not just what I will do for them.

I like me for me and finally, finally, that’s enough.

Life. It’s something to look forward to.

“I like who I am now. Other people may not. I’m comfortable. I feel freer now. I don’t want growing older to matter to me.” ― Meryl Streep

Have you ever experienced a shift like this?

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How we really feel…

A new survey reports that female Facebook users are annoyed by  posts made by other women – more than 80% annoyed.  That’s a lot of annoyance.

What ticked the survey responders off?

  • TMI — sharing too.much.information and TOO often
  • Liking too many posts.  If you like EVERYTHING do you really like Anything?
  • Promoting causes or sharing political views
  • Sappy updates about their perfect lives
  • for more details from the survey, click here

I use Facebook to connect with family & friends and I enjoy reading what others write about their lives as well as viewing photos of vacations, holidays and grand-kids.  But, I do agree somewhat with the women surveyed and there were 2 additional update types that I find irritating:

1. Open ended attention-getting posts i.e.

  • “I don’t know how I’m going to do it; so much on my mind.”
  • “Too much to process; I am so confused.”
  • “My life just really really sucks right now.”

As desired, these types of comments always result in multiple responses including  “What’s wrong?”, “Are you OK?”, “We need a girls night out!!” etc. There’s never an update explaining the cryptic situation that prompted the first post.  Really? Ugh!

2. STATUS UPDATES TYPED IN ALL CAPS I.E.

  • BOY IT SURE IS NICE OUTSIDE TODAY I HOPE I CAN GET IT TOGETHER IN TIME TO GET OUT INTO THE SUNSHINE AND ENJOY THE DAY. BUT FIRST I HAVE TO GET OVER THE EXPLOSIVE DIARRHEA THAT I’VE HAD SINCE THURSDAY’S SHRIMP TACOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for yelling at us AND for sharing too much information. Not!

Re Facebook and this blog:  I try to remember the #1 lesson I learned in Media Training 25+ years ago:  Never post anything you wouldn’t want your Grandmother to read.

That’s it.

Simple. Effective. To-the-point.

Do you use Facebook?  If so, do you agree with the survey?

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Skating through?

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So, as a blogger (and that still feels a little weird to say out loud), from time to time I’ll read over what I’ve written and think , wow.

That was pretty good.

That one made no sense at all!

Where were you going with that?

And why did that particular post strike such a cord with others?

But I’ve noticed something startling and I admit that I’m feeling a bit aghast about it.

I’ve filtered my posts.

Crap.

That’s what Facebook was for.   Facebook was where I followed my own rule of “never post anything you wouldn’t want your Mother to read.”

And I’ve stuck to it.

Sure, some of my posts were mundane but they’ve all been harmless.  I’ve held back from posting too many pictures of cute grand-babies. I’ve resisted commenting when teens I know and care about are sharing way too much. (Where are the parents??)  I’ve chosen to not engage when the braggety McBraggarts have taken over the wall posts.   And I’ve stayed mute when mid-life crises have imploded right before my very eyes.  I’ve been pretty darn PC and proud of it!

I started a blog, because really, I just wanted to write. I wanted to write about what’s important to me; what matters, what concerns, what inspires and what intrigues me.

But like a brand new ice skater clinging to the boards of the rink,  I’ve held back and I’ve stayed a little too close to the careful side. 

Crap!

I haven’t written about my job or what I do or how I spend most of my days.  And I probably won’t. 

I haven’t written about dysfunction junction; about how sometimes family can be the ultimate F word.   We have many that we adore and enjoy and others .. well, I just don’t even know where to begin.

I haven’t written about health concerns or struggles with weight or what getting older really feels like.

I haven’t written about fears, dreams, or desires.

I haven’t written about what I want the rest of my life to look like.

I’ve held back .. I’ve filtered and I’ve been a little bit less than .. me.

So, please bear with me because, today, I’m gonna try lacing up the figure skates I’ve had since I was 12 and stepping back out onto the ice.  I’m Canadian born & raised after all; we practically skate before we walk!  The blades are a little dull, but I’m pretty sure that, with practice, I could still “shoot the duck.”

 How about you?  Have you ever caught yourself “skating through” something?  Did you change your behavior or just keep on going?

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