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On deciding where to go

“You have brains in your head.

You have feet in your shoes.

You can steer yourself any direction you choose.

You’re on your own.

And you know what you know.

And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”
— Dr. Seuss

Today we vote: it’s time to decide where we’ll go.

You going?

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As we head to the polls today, America, let’s be all that we can be: civil, respectful, patient and kind. I’ve met and witnessed too many wonderful people across this great land to ever believe that what’s shown on TV represents the best of us.   God Bless America!  – your grateful citizen, MJ.

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Seekers

Have you ever met someone whose personality immediately drew you in? Who, at first glance, seemed like someone you’d like to know better?

Not long ago, this happened to me.

I found myself seated next to another lady while both of us were getting manicures; I couldn’t help but overhear her conversation with another patron. She was articulate and engaging on the topics they discussed (health and health care). When the other lady finished and left, this one turned to me.   For a time, the conversation was pleasant.  Smiling inwardly, I thought, this is fun, because I love to meet and talk with new people.  But it was when she ventured off into alternative care that I felt a smidge of unease.   Bear in mind that I don’t take issue with alternative remedies; I personally think there’s a lot we can learn by going back to the basics – good nutrition, proper sleep, etc.  But, this was  different: I saw her eyes brighten and noted when she licked her lips and leaned in closer, almost conspiratorially.   It hit me that the two-way info exchange had stopped; now she talked at me about energy fields, colon-hydrotherapy and her stance against vaccinations.  Well, “to each his own,” I thought.  A break in the conversation allowed me to sit quietly for a moment and that’s when I heard it, a ringing in my right ear, clear and steady, like an alarm going off.   I smiled while trying to follow her stances on modalities, PH balances and the like.  I found myself a little sad, too, because before me was a woman with a quick and seeking mind.  Before me was not someone seeking conversation or friendship, however: before me was a soul whispering hear me, see me, affirm me.

When it was time to go, she smiled warmly and introduced herself as Jane, slipping her business card into my hand. I smiled back and told her my first name, too, but refrained from sharing my contact information. Instead I minded that little alarm, the one that very clearly said no.

“Intuition is always right in at least two important ways;

It is always in response to something.

It always has your best interest at heart”

― Gavin de Becker, “The Gift of Fear”

Have you ever been in this situation? How did you handle it?

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Categories: Faith, fear, Friendship, Personal, Thoughts, Uncategorized, Wisdom | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 24 Comments

The Spark

I read an interview with four contributors to the Oprah magazine. Each were asked the same questions; their answers made me think about how I’d respond if I were asked. So … on that, here we go …

I’m most creative … when I’m cooking.

If I were a color, I’d be … Turquoise!

I often imagine myself … in the country.

I really wish I knew how to … stick to an exercise program for more than 2 weeks.

I’d love to spend a lazy Sunday … cooking, reading, blogging & singing.  Read my best day for more.

I’m most excited about … Voting this Tuesday; who will win Michigan? 

My secret talent is … remembering song lyrics/artists. 

What sparks your creativity? google.images.com

 Your turn; how would you answer?

Categories: Attitude, Fun, Home, Joy, Life, Quotes, Relationships, Thoughts | Tags: , , , , , | 31 Comments

On saying “No”

I’m a habitual organizer, somewhat of a people-pleaser and writer of daily “to do” lists.  I have often taken on too much and sometimes it’s other people’s “stuff.” Their issues, their fears, their problems.

I’m learning to say “no” to what’s not right for me.

I’ve started stepping back and examining the other person’s intentions … and my own.

Am I really helping them? Or am I just doing their work?

Am I really needed here?  Or do I just like the feeling of being needed?

It’s difficult to do because this contradicts learned behavior.   The word “no” never came out of my mouth without some sort of explanation designed to make the other person feel better. To let them off the hook.

Saying “no” felt foreign at first.

Fears tumbled in my head: What will they think? Will they still be my friend? Will they still love me? Will they ever talk to me again?

Then I asked myself this: Are you saying yes for them or for you?

And I realized that every time I have chosen to say “no” to a situation that wasn’t right for me .. I have made more space in my life for the ones that are.

No.

It’s a sentence.

Categories: Attitude, Determination, Friendship, Life, Personal, Quotes, Relationships, Self Discovery, Thoughts, Uncategorized | Tags: , , , | 26 Comments

A relationship worth cultivating

Eaton’s girls photo from archives.gov.on.ca

“The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.  And if you find someone to love the ‘you’ you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” ~ Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City

Ok, I know that a screenwriter penned those words for the character known as Miss Carrie Bradshaw but I still think they’re profound.

As a young girl, my mother did her best to stress the importance of accepting myself exactly as I was. She spoke lovingly of her late mother, my Nana, and Nana’s beautiful sisters, who were so polished and poised that they were often referred to as “Eaton’s girls.”  (Eaton’s was a national fashion department store in Canada, and Eaton’s girls were the prettiest of the pretty).   Mom made it clear to my sisters and I that we stood on the shoulders of industrious and intelligent women; women who were feminine, clever, practical and lovely. Just like me. Imagine the impact of such words on a developing and awkward young girl? Continue reading

Categories: Beauty, Fashion, Friendship, Home, Life Lessons, Mom, Quotes, Relationships, Self Discovery, Thoughts, Women | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , | 18 Comments

Sunday night smiles

 
 

It was a long week … that first week of the New Year. 

And we made it .. I made it anyways … I made it out of my jammies and vacation mode and back into work and here it is Sunday.. and now I’ve turned the corner away from a flu bug and am (nearly) feeling, dare I say, good …Whee~

Happy Day, all …

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Worth noting

Self-worth: it's what's for dinner

 

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option” – Anonymous

Categories: Friendship, Home, Rants, Relationships, Self Discovery, Thoughts, Useful Information, Wisdom, Women | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

‘Tis the season

photo from snovalleystar.com

Tis the season to feel bombarded by so many in need.  I don’t know about you, but I can find myself getting a little overwhelmed because I want to help everyone.  It makes me sad to realize that I can’t.

Toys-for-Tots. Veterans Home.  Local food pantry. Juvenile Home. Mel Trotter Ministries.  Salvation Army kettle ringers.  Adopt-a-family.

These are the groups that I’ve tried to do a little something for already.

But .. something hit me the other night as I was cleaning off my car and getting ready to leave work.  I noticed my co-worker’s car parked next to mine,  buried in about 6″ of snow & ice.  The snow was still falling and I had places to be. I was leaving and she was still working.  I thought about the fact that she doesn’t get around as easily as I do.  “Oh what the hell,” I thought. My car was going to need another few minutes to warm up anyways so I took the time to dust the snow off her car. Then, I really got into and scraped the ice off her windows, too.  And, as I did this, I smiled. A lot. I pictured the look on her face when she came out to her car later that night and found that someone had done this for her.  I happily got into my car and went on my way.

That little gesture cost nothing.    It took little effort. It felt … wonderful. I felt wonderful.

Times are tough, money’s tight, and unemployment benefits are being cut for many.  You can do something to help others this season and it doesn’t have to break your piggy bank.

So … I’ll continue to drop spare change into the Salvation Army kettle and I’ll buy a few extra groceries and gloves for a hungry family. No problem-o.

But..  I’ll also smile and say “no worries” when someone else is stressed and rushed and needs to cut in front of me…  and I’ll leave a little bit more in the coffee worker’s tip jar. And I surely will continue to scrape off an ocassional ice encrusted car.

Why?

Because I can.

Categories: Attitude, Charity, Determination, Friendship, Holidays, Life, Life Lessons, Personal, Random observations, Seasons, Self Discovery, Uncategorized, Wisdom | Tags: , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

How do you mend a broken heart?

A parental pitfall that no one warns us of is what to do when our child’s romantic relationship with someone… ends.

Like most areas of parenting, there’s no handbook for it. 

As Mom to two young men,  I’ve witnessed them fall in and out of love. They’ve had their hearts broken and they’ve broken a few hearts, too.   We’ve been there to comfort them, to offer advice, and, to redirect when necessary.    But here’s what no one prepares us for: what to do about our relationship with her?   She’s the girl he wanted us to like, the one he asked us to include in our plans, the one he planned his free time around.   What do you say to her?  How do you tell her that you’re sorry things didn’t work out the way they’d both imagined and that you know how much it hurts.. but that you see his discomfort, too? 

Answer:  You don’t. You keep your thoughts to yourself and trust that when she thinks back on times with us… she remembers cozy days, laughter, and comfortable conversations. You hope she recalls that she was welcomed and that we were kind. We hope that she knows we’ll miss her, too.

How do you mend a broken heart?   Sometimes…you have to just stay the distance while your heart adjusts as well.

Categories: Family, Friendship, Life, Life Lessons, Love, Opinion, Personal, Random observations, Relationships, Uncategorized, Useful Information, Wisdom, Women | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

25 things I smile about

  1. Old dog snoring happily in the sunshine

    photo source: ahajokes.com

  2. Feeling confident
  3. A day off with no particular place to be
  4. Time with the hubbs
  5. A clean house
  6. Summer breezes
  7. Pretty underwear
  8. Grandbabies giggling in my kitchen
  9. A favorite tune on the radio
  10. Chats with our daughter-in-law
  11. Long walks on a breezy day
  12. All encompassing hugs from our sons
  13. The smell of Sunday supper simmering in the oven
  14. Laughing with Mom
  15. Clean laundry
  16. Screen doors
  17. Libraries
  18. Black Leather Elvis
  19. Painted toenails
  20. Books. Old. New. Borrowed. Books.
  21. Clean, shiny, bouncy hair that can’t be contained
  22. Autumn colors
  23. Leftovers
  24. A full tank of gas
  25. The first snowfall
Categories: Attitude, Confidence at any age, Family, Friendship, Gratitude, Life, Life Lessons, Love, Personal, Relationships | Tags: , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Flying solo on Thanksgiving

source: johnnycupcakes

It was Thanksgiving Day, 2004 and we had just buried my Dad. My lovely, sweet, kind and wonderful Dad. Gone from us.

I had been home to see him about month before, when we knew things weren’t going well, and I had tried to say my good-byes. Sort of.  Because you’re never really able to say all that you want to say.   I told him I loved him, tried my best to thank him for being the best Dad ever, and clung to him until it was time to leave for the airport.

I hugged my mom and sisters, boarded the plane and headed back to the United States; away from the family farm in rural Saskatchewan.

It was Thanksgiving day and I never realized until then what a gift a light travel day could be.  What I had always imagined would be such a lonesome, awful thing to do turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

The plane was nearly empty. I didn’t have to make small talk with anyone.

I sat alone.

I ate alone.

I read.

I slept.

I cried softly into the darkness.

It was on that plane, on Thanksgiving Day, that I was, once again, overwhelmed with gratitude. Gratitude for the gift of a kind and loving father.  For 80+ years. Who gets that? I did. Lucky.

my Dad, Lloyd; an Emjayandthem (C) photo

You didn’t know my Dad, so let me tell you a little about him.  His name was Lloyd. He stashed cookies in his pocket & licorice in his truck.  He didn’t travel without his newest favorite cap or a little grin on his face. He loved people, but he had a soft spot for children.  He taught me where to find Saskatoon berries, to love and care for animals & appreciate the land we farmed, to be fearless, to drive a stick shift, to read the sky, and to dance while standing on his shoes. He taught me that real men cry, adore their wives, tickle their children, and are playful, gentle and loyal.  My Dad was a man of few words. He didn’t need them I suppose. His actions spoke volumes.  My Dad .. showed up.

6 years have passed since he left us and it never gets easier.

You never get over it. Time does not heal; that, my friends, is a lie.

We. Just. Get. Through. It.

I Miss you Dad, on this day and every day.

Categories: Family, Gratitude, Holidays, Life, Life Lessons, Love, Personal, Relationships, Seasons, Wisdom | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 14 Comments

Live with Intention

source: dailytop10.net

Live with intention.

Walk to the edge.

Listen. Hard.

Practice wellness.

Play with abandon.

Laugh.

Choose with no regret.

Continue to learn.

Appreciate your friends.

Do what you love.

Live. As. If. This. Is. All. There. Is.

-mary anne radmacher

Categories: Attitude, Confidence at any age, Family, Forgiveness, Friendship, Gratitude, Humor, Life, Life Lessons, Personal, Quotes, Random observations, Relationships, Wisdom, Women | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

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