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Next is not promised

my Lilacs are blooming and they're simply gorgeous!

The latest natural disasters have made me think again about what’s important to me.

It is NOT a tidy house or a clean desk.

It’s my family & friends.

BE mindful.

ENJOY each minute because the next is not promised to you.

Do what you love.

Smile more. Give more. Be more.

Laugh, love … shed only happy tears, dance to what moves you, forgive, let live and for heaven’s sake … BE grateful!

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A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly.  You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.  ~Roald Dahl

Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same.  ~Francesca Reigler

So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key.  ~The Eagles, “Already Gone”

The only people who find what they are looking for in life are the fault finders.  ~Foster’s Law

Every thought is a seed.  If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious.  ~Bill Meyer

No life is so hard that you can’t make it easier by the way you take it.  ~Ellen Glasgow

Misery is a communicable disease.  ~Martha Graham

A loving person lives in a loving world.  A hostile person lives in a hostile world; everyone you meet is your mirror.  ~Ken Keyes, Jr.

Some days there won’t be a song in your heart.  Sing anyway.  ~Emory Austin

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It’s in our hands

image from positivelypositive.com

 

Our thoughts form our world.

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Is it really progress?

Angry Birdgs game photo from advante.org

I enjoy computing and find the vast array of information available to me via the internet amazing (and sometimes a little overwhelming). I’m also an adult.

So I was alarmed to read the following statistics from Internet Security Company AVG:

Small children today are more likely to navigate with a mouse, play a computer game and increasingly – operate a Smartphone than swim, tie their shoelaces or make their own breakfast. This is according to a new ‘Digital Diaries’ study from Internet Security Company AVG (www.avg.com). AVG Digital Diaries is a series of studies looking at how children’s interaction with technology has changed.  For more on the study visit: http://http://www.avg.com/us-en/press-releases-news.ndi-672

 Kids are smart. We know that.  But here’s what this article makes me wonder: are today’s parents afraid to hear the words, “I’m bored?”

If my siblings and I dared utter the dreaded “I’m bored” we were told one of two things: 1) Really? Ok you can help with ____ (we lived on a farm, fill in the blanks with: bring the clothes in from the clothesline, clean the basement, weed the garden, pick the eggs, clean the stalls in barn, mow the lawn, water the flowers, you name it.)  The second alternative was 2) Find something to do or I’ll find it for you (see #1). And we did.  We rode bikes, climbed trees, stole raspberries out of the garden, collected rocks, and built forts, castles and stages. We went on hikes, produced talent shows and pitched tents.  All of those activities were far desired over spending any time doing chores.

What’s happened to singing, dancing, reading and “playing school?” What’s happened to puppet shows, make-believe, dress-up days and creating forts out of old sheets?  What’s happened to catching bugs, going up the slide the wrong way and hopscotch, kick-the-can, and freeze tag?

Please tell me that most parents are not too busy building imaginary Farms on Facebook to actually interact with their kids.  (“Baby drowns while Mom on Facebook: http://www.kdvr.com/news/kdvr-baby-drowns-while-mom-is-on-fa-01132011,0,2404118.story)   )

So what is it?   Have we become so paralyzed by fear that we no longer let our kids go outside to play?

My parents insisted that “children learn more by what we do than what we say.”  So if your kids see you playing on an iPhone or iPad it makes sense that they will want to also.  And that’s ok .. to a point.  I’m just hoping that little ones are also being exposed to educational “apps” because I’m concerned about a generation that can order take-out but not cook, can “race” for NASCAR but not change a tire and can master “Angry Birds” but not identify a real one looking at them from outside.

Technology? Love it. But it shouldn’t be a substitute for the real thing: play time.

 What are your thoughts on this?

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Panera Cares: The question is .. will we?

Last night my local news featured a story on The Panera Bread restaurant chain having opened its third “Panera Cares” cafe in Portland, Oregon.  Two others were opened in the past year: one in Dearborn, MI (near Detroit) and the first in St. Louis, MO.   These cafes have the same food choices on the menu as all other Paneras with one difference: there are no prices listed. Meals aren’t free, rather a “pay what you can” concept has been introduced.  I heard the reporter state that while most customers pay what would be considered the regular price, many pay more so as to give something back.  Any extra monies are given to local job training programs benefiting at-risk youth.

“There are a lot of folks out there who question whether this could ever work. In many ways, this is a test of humanity,” said Ron Shaich, the company’s founder.

I do enjoy the variety of Panera’s menu and while some items are too calorie-laden for me, I am happy to support a company that tries to do something for the greater good.  Give me that over a 30 ounce “Trenta” any day of the week.

For more information visit their website or watch the video below:

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Time for a closet makeover?

photo from tlc.com

“Your closet should contain 3 categories of clothing: clothes you love, clothes that fit you now, and clothes that garner you compliments whenever you wear them.”  Peter Walsh, organizational expert.

My first response when I heard this quote was, “Wow my closet would be much more spacious if I applied this rule!”

Then I got to thinking:
 
How many items do I have in my closet that were “price-driven” (Items I’ve never worn but were purchased because they were on sale.) 

How many items do I have that don’t fit me now and are stark reminders of a size I wore… ten years ago?  Those little(r) clothes are like playground bullies who taunt me of my insecurities every time I open the closet. They are not motivators, no, to the contrary.  They make me feel badly.

Add in the abundance of boring clothes that evoke a feeling of blah when I look at them or put them on.  I think I can count 8 items that I love or get compliments on.  There’s maybe 6 that fit me really well right now.

  The same rule applies to shoes – there are the corporate heels that I never need in my job, cute sandals that hurt my feet when I wear them and, again, impractical shoes bought because they were on sale.

I’m fighting a bug and don’t have the energy to do this anytime soon but .. as soon as I feel better .. I’m finding some trash bags and am going through my closet with these rules in mind: one bag can go to Goodwill, the other to the trash. 
 
I can’t wait to see what the back of my closet looks like!   I can’t wait to use my Christmas gift cards on well fitting clothes that flatter my Jessica Rabbit-ness, not hide it.  Clothes full of my favorite colors – purple, raspberry, turquoise and sapphire.
 
How about you?  
 
If you applied this to your closet today, what would be left?  
 
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Back in the Saddle, again

photo from metro.co.uk * see story below

Ever feel like you’re that little dog and the giant horse is your LIFE?

That’s me; the perky eared little guy bravely standing on the withers of the lumbering Clydesdale. 

One false move = disaster.

The reality is that it’s not quite that dramatic

My desk job doesn’t involve me running into burning buildings or curing cancer. 

   I have a higher risk of a paper cut than I do a trip & fall.

It’s the getting back into the groove that’s daunting.

Planning meals.  Keeping up with laundry.

Checking homework. Making sure the boy packed his lunch.

Having to be somewhere everyday, on time.

I know – wah, wah, wah – call the wah-mbulance!

It’s our own fault.

We’ve had 10 delicious days off! 

Days with no schedule, nothing pressing, no deadlines, no pressure. 

It was everything we wanted and just what we needed.

And now … the fridge is looking scrawny; laundry is calling my name.

But .. just for today, I’m rolling in one last afternoon at home with my loves, under the glow of my still-up-Christmas-tree, watching holiday movies on the DVR and finishing off last of the boxed candy.

 

        Anybody else having trouble letting go?

 

p.s.  — for the story of this unique doggie/horse friendship, visit http://www.metro.co.uk/news/695710-dog-survives-a-squashing-by-horse-pal

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On Resolutions …

photo from flickr

It’s New Year’s Eve and my resolution this year?  I’m not making any!

Too much pressure with too few results, in my experience.

It’s far more productive for me to simply say “no” to what I don’t want to do, what’s not good for me, or what’s taking me away from what really counts.

Saying no takes effort, especially for me, a people pleaser, organizer of the fun and keeper of the peace.

Saying “no” has allowed more yes-es in my life.  Stopping myself from doing what I’ve always done allows room for unexpected and unplanned delights.

Saying no feels foreign, but I’m getting better at it.   Here’s the rub:  it doesn’t even need to be spoken.  It can be our little secret.

    I know that this can’t apply to every category in life, it’s not practical.

But .. rather than beat myself up about failing at an unrealistic goal, I’m quietly continuing the personal progress made this year and carrying it forward into next.

I’ve cleared out the clutter in my life so I can succeed at what is important to me.

I’ve stopped maintaining relationships that aren’t healthy.  Doing so has made more room for those who are.

I’ve gone to bed earlier, and felt better,  than the results any diet ever delivered.

I’ve faced fears, spoken up and taken classes; these efforts have energized me more than any new skin care product possibly could.

I’ve stopped trying to do it all, be it all, fix it all for everyone else. I’ve started doing what matters… to me.

     Happy New Year all!  

And please share… are you making resolutions this year? Or skipping them all-together? 

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Mid-point

It’s Wednesday … half way through our much-anticipated holiday week off.

We’ve stayed up too late, slept in, napped, watched movies, read, ate naughty foods, laughed, sang and visited friends & family. Our time off has been lazy and unstructured and exactly what we needed.

The Christmas tree is still up, although it’s looking a tad pathetic with the departure of pretty packages and bows.

New clothes are ready to be washed; boxes and papers put away.   Santa platters will be handwashed and set aside and the Dickens village packed gingerly into its container.

Today’s the day .. the mid-point day that we transform our house from a Christmassy cottage back to a working home.

Time to take down ornaments, put away the decorations, and get things back in order.

If we don’t do it now, we’re facing Christmas chaos as we head back to work next week.    It’s chaos created when our comfy wintry home collides head-on with a corporate work week.

But first, just for a little while, I’m keeping the tree lights on because I really hate to see them go.

Anybody else feeling the same? Not quite ready to say good-bye to Christmas?

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Rants of Christmas(es) Past

Christmas is 11 days away and, oddly, I’m actually calm … this year. But there was a time, not all that long ago, when that was simply not the case.

Not. In. The. Least.

You see, I did too much. As a young wife, I created these ridiculous standards and then, every year ….I delivered. Every time.   Our tree was spectacular, my freezer bursting with homemade tarts, cookies, pies, fudge and peanut butter balls.  Presents were carefully selected, wrapped, labeled, mailed to people near and far. Songs were carefully chosen for an annual Christmas CD and placed into delicate artisan crafted cards.. and mailed to nearly 60 people.  Four course meal? Hardly. Try seven.  Hand-decorated stockings hung by the chimney with care.  And .. to top it off: hosted a party for 50+, in our home, and did all the cooking.  Oh, and worked full-time.   Martha Stewart can suck my socks!

Should have seen it coming.

The poor hubbs didn’t.  Poor hubbs, who was happily oblivious to my turmoil lurking within. He was only trying to be helpful as he cheerfully announced, two nights from Christmas, that we should all go out for dinner!  Our boys, at that time 16 and 8, erupted in cheers!  The hubbs beamed with delight at the brilliance of his helpfulness.

Me?

Not so much.

Smiling woodenly, I mentally calculated:  ok .. if-we-get-to-the-restaurant-before-5:30-we-won’t-have-to-wait-for-a-table-and-we-can-eat-and-be-back-at-the-house-by-8:00. You see that’s when I was planning on icing the 4 dozen sugar cookies taunting me from the freezer.  And finishing the wrapping. And ensuring that the turkey was properly defrosting. And finalizing the menu for the guests arriving early the next morning.  And making sure everyone had clean “nice” clothes to wear and. and. and.

So  … off we went in the SUV and even I had to admit, it was gorgeous out.  A perfect winter’s evening, with snow falling, Christmas lights twinkling,  and every house up and down our block absolutely glowing.  More cars than normal were parked in driveways, signaling the arrival of college kids and other family members home for the holiday. Slowly I felt myself drawn into the moment, the laughter, the music.

We enjoyed a nice meal and, more than once,  I caught the hubbs beaming with delight that he had orchestrated this moment.  And, I had to admit, it was fun.  The restaurant wasn’t crowded, it felt wonderfully decadent to be waited on and, for a moment, I forgot about all that was remaining on my to-do list.

As we headed back to our neighborhood it began to snow again. Big, fat fluffy snowflakes, the kind that swirl and twirl below the street light. Magic.

Sitting in the back with our youngest boy, as he went over his wish list for the 80 millionth time, I heard these words from the front seat, ” Hey!! Look!! Carollers,” our oldest joyfully exclaimed.   He and the hubbs chatted excitedly as we headed up our street, the same direction as that massive orgy of carollers were headed in. Oh crap.  Continue reading

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My wish list

photo from flickr.com

The Hubbs has been asking for my wish list….He knows me better than anyone, but he still wants a little help with it. And that’s ok. He’s got some ideas but what he’s really asking for is help hitting a home run.  Smart man; this ain’t his first rodeo.  

The thing is? 

I don’t have anything on it. 

Terrible problem to have, isn’t it?

We’re healthy and employed.

Our home is warm & cozy. 

The kids are happy and well; the grand-babes are thriving and beautiful and growing. 

Even the dog has it pretty darn great. 

I have clothes that don’t fit, so clearly, we have more than enough food. 

My car runs just fine and – bonus – it’s paid off.  

I have a stack of books calling my name and I’ve set them aside for Christmas vacation.  Speaking of, I have vacation time and an employer that encourages me to take it.

It’s hard for me to come up with a list just for the sake of it

What I really want… I have: time off with pay,  opportunities for the two of us to slip out for the night and talk, share a look and a smile and a promise of what’s to come. Time to sleep in, to cook, to read with the winter sun streaming in on my shoulders, time to play and talk with the kids & grands, to visit friends and family. 

Unscheduled time to goof off and to accomplish absolutely .. nothing.

I’m not hard to buy for; I just don’t need anything.

My wish?  

My wish is that anyone reading this will see the promise of what is Christmas. 

When possible, forgive.  

When not, give yourself permission to step away.  

When you can help, do so.

Choose words carefully. 

Refrain from criticism. 

Pick up the phone and call an elderly relative.   

Do something nice for someone else just because you can.

Mix it up.  

Stop the schedule.   Slow down.

Look around.

Celebrate

what

is.

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Just because

photo from Countryliving.com

The hubbs is a big strapping man who’s lying low today because he had 4 wisdom teeth extracted on Monday.  

He’s puffy, sore and sleepy.

I’m home.

Armed with a cauldron of homemade chicken soup, clean blankets, pain relievers and accompanied by our trusty pooch, Frank, I’ve been up and down the stairs about 40 times to check on him. 

He’s cozy, comfy and loved.

I’m monitoring email, responding to voice messages and am exactly where I want to be.

I mentioned to a female friend that I’d likely stay at home today and her response startled me, “Why would you do that? You’re only going to spoil him you know.”

Um.. Isn’t that the point?

That’s what I’d want if I was in his shoes.  And I’d get it. Now.

He wasn’t always the best at care-giving; he freaks at the sight of blood and he tends to over-react to anyone in pain.  Once, after he got me home post-surgery, he left for a few hours. Not his proudest moment.  But no reason to deny care now.

If I were the one down for the count, he’d bring me Campbell’s Chicken soup because he can’t cook. But .. it would be warmed and served with care. I’d hear his big feet up and down the stairs as he tippy toed in to check on me.  I’d feel his broad hands as he pulled the blankets up to cover my shoulders. I’d hear his deep voice whispering to the boys or the dog to “stay out of your mother’s room and let her rest!”

Care. Concern. Love. Attention. Comfort.

It costs nothing.  It means.. everything.

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Food, Art, Books, Birds and whatever...

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Connecting with People in My Path

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Renee Johnson Writes

Novelist, Traveler, and More

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