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Sunday thoughts – Resolutions, Squirrels & boxes of joy

It’s Sunday; snow’s falling, brunch is calling and I just remembered I have tomorrow off.  Yippee Skippy!

Chatting with a colleague recently, I used the squirrel analogy ~ never heard of it?   It goes like this:

Make a decision and take what comes with it.   And not deciding is taking action, too.

It’s January and we’re bombarded by “diet” ads on TV, including NukeyourSystem, Weight Counters, you name it.  Radio ads tout  gym memberships and today’s newspaper featured “deals” on “heart healthy” prepacked frozen foods with green (think healthy) packaging.  This picture below made me laugh because it is so much closer to reality:

Lately I’ve tuned out the noise, enjoyed the “off” button on the TV/Radio/iPhone and found myself devouring a box of joy, see below:

“The greatest gift is the passion for reading.
It is cheap, it consoles, it distracts, it excites,
it gives you knowledge of the world and experience of a wide kind. It is a moral illumination.”

Elizabeth Hardwick

 * * *

What are you reading?  And did you make any New Years resolutions?


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On watering

It’s the time of year when many of us reflect on what’s in the rear view mirror – and what’s out front.  And here’s the thing about resolutions:  I no longer make them.

Nope, not one.  Too much pressure with too few results, in my experience anyways.

Instead I’m looking ahead at my days off and rolling in them.

I’m going to bed when I’m tired and getting up when I’m not.

I’m doing what I want to do and finding that I want to do a lot more!

Over the past couple of years it’s been far more productive to just say “no” to what I don’t want to do,  and to those who would distract me from what matters.

Saying no takes effort, especially for me, a people pleaser, organizer of the fun and keeper of the peace. But – here’s the rub – saying “no” allowed more yes-es.

I’m simply continuing the progress made and looking forward to what’s next.

Some things that have worked for me include:

I’ve stopped trying to do it all, be it all, fix it all for everyone else.

And most importantly, I no longer water the weeds.



 How about you? Do you make New Year’s resolutions?  What do you want more of?


Categories: Attitude, Confidence at any age, Determination, Faith, Family, Gratitude, Growth, Holidays, Home, Life, Personal, Rants, Self Discovery, Thoughts | Tags: , , , , | 30 Comments

No watering the weeds

This has been my best Christmas holiday in recent memory.

Why? On top of the laughter and the joy was something even sweeter: never getting sick.

Nope, for the past four years, I’ve made it to the finish line (Christmas morning) and then collapsed in a heap as the flu bug ravaged my body.

Oh, I had a humdinger of a cold 2 weeks ago.  And a cold sore the size of Kansas to accompany it.  Pretty. Yeah, not so much.

But I never – not once – not this year – got the flu.

No body aches while wrapping presents.

No fevers while cooking breakfasts.

No wishing for bed while entertaining a house-full.


And I think I might know why.

This year, I stopped doing much of what I’ve always done.

I didn’t sign us up for Holiday visits.

I put up 1/4 of the decorations, and even less than last year.

I mailed only a few Christmas cards and most were to elderly aunties. If you received one, you might be elderly. 🙂

I never made fudge and I barely baked.   Everyone plowed through the chocolate covered peanuts, though.

I wrapped quickly and with industrial-strength tape.  (Hubbs has since been renamed “He who was not amused.”  I laughed my face off as he tried to open gifts.  Still am. Not apologizing.)

Yes I’ve stayed up, but I’ve also read up, slept in, and slowed down.

I’ve paid attention to what matters most to me and I’ve kicked my inner lizard to the curb, surrounded myself with battery chargers and heeded my own advice.

I didn’t continue rituals just because I always had.

I didn’t allow time for relationships that aren’t healthy for me.

Instead, I cultivated joy and rest, peace and quiet, laughter and music and happiness.  I harvested love and romance and take out menus and days without schedules.  I stopped shoulding on myself.

I didn’t water the weeds.

How about you?  Can you resist “watering the weeds?”

sunflower me

Here comes 2014. Let’s ignore the weeds & embrace the flowers in our lives!

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Giving it up

A lot of folks are talking about what they’re giving up right now. I’m surrounded by “resolution commentary:”  no more this and a lot more that.

I hear them and I’ve been there, too.

But something occurred to me last night that I hadn’t considered: how about I give it up to Him?

How about if, instead of trying to fix or do it all, I turn my worries over to Him?

How about if, instead of the same old resolutions, I make just one new one:  to go to Him?

How about it?

message from God

*image from

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Questioning New Years

Here comes next year …. and I have a few questions for you:

What do you want to learn?
learning kitty
What do you want to release?
laidback kitty
Where do you want to go?
exercising kitty
What do you want to change?
kitty couture
What do you want to try?
kitty yoga

“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.”  – Brad Paisley.

Happy New Year, friends.

*all images from; no kitties were harmed in this posting.

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Getting (back) up again

Here we are, several months into 2012 and I’m just wondering – how are those New Year’s Resolutions going?

I didn’t make any.  I started out the year behind, having gotten sick at Christmas and staying that way through most of January. Next came a cold sore and a stomach bug. Oh the joys of it all!

By the time mid-February arrived, I realized that all I’d done was hold my ground. And, considering the challenges I’d faced, that actually felt like something.

Then I read this Japanese proverb,“Fall down Seven times, get up Eight!”

I laughed and thought, “Now that’s something I can do!”

I can get back up.

We all make plans and set goals. Sometimes we’re successful and sometimes we’re not.  Sometimes our best laid plans are dashed by illnesses, job changes or other unforeseen circumstances. Setbacks are normal; perfection isn’t.

Whatever it is you’re trying to change, know this: The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. (Lao Tzu).

So many of us are trying to accomplish the same things:  Lose weight. Eat better. Watch less TV.  Read more. Save money.  Go to bed earlier. Quit smoking. De-stress. Exercise regularly. Go to church again.   Etc. Etc. Etc.

Whatever it is, when you stumble, just get back up again.

I will if you will.

“Did you just fall?”

“No, I attacked the floor”


“I’m freakin’ talented.”

 – Anonymous

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Making room

Here's the New Year lookin' at you; image from

Here it comes, ready or not – The New Year is staring at us, peeking over the fence and waving.  For some this feels like the taunt of an unwelcome relative whose presence at the door brings heartburn and heartache. For others it’s a time to think about what to do differently.  What’s new? What’s coming? What’s exciting?

Newscasters are busy recapping the year, commentators are working to highlight the biggest stories, biggest scandals, biggest disasters, biggest whatevers. Yawn.

I’m taking a page out of my own book and revisiting where I was last year at this time .. and I’m not making a single resolution.   Too much pressure with too few results, in my experience.

It’s far more productive for me to just say “no” to what I don’t want to do, what’s not good for me, or what takes me away from what really counts.

Saying no takes effort, especially for me, a people pleaser, organizer of the fun and keeper of the peace.

Saying “no” has allowed more yes-es in my life.  Stopping myself from doing what I’ve always done allows room for unexpected and unplanned delights.

Saying no feels foreign, but I’m getting better at it.   Here’s the rub:  it doesn’t even need to be spoken.  It can be our little secret.

I know that this can’t apply to every category in life, it’s not practical.

But .. rather than beat myself up about failing at an unrealistic goal, I’m quietly continuing the personal progress I’ve made this year and carrying it forward into the next.

I’ve cleared out the clutter in my life so I can do what’s important to me.

I’ve stopped maintaining relationships that aren’t healthy.  Doing so has made more room for the ones that are.

I’ve gone to bed earlier, and looked better,  than the results any diet ever delivered.

I’ve faced fears, spoken up and taken on new things; these efforts have energized me more than any $100 skin care product possibly could.

I’ve stopped trying to do it all, be it all, fix it all for everyone else. I’ve started doing what matters… to me.

I'm taking a more relaxed view of the New Year ... bring on the pink pants, lose the cigar.

“Your closet should contain 3 categories of clothing: clothes you love, clothes that fit you now, and clothes that garner you compliments whenever you wear them.”  Peter Walsh, organizational expert.

Couldn’t the same rule be applied to relationships?  Look around.  The people you’ve kept close – do they “fit and flatter you?” Do you love spending time with them? Do they complement your life, your personality, your goals and your mindset?  Or are you reaching for the same old shlumpy dumpy mess because they’re familiar and comfortable?

Making room – it’s not just for closets anymore.

Happy New Year, friends.

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